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writes:Ok just a question, i'll try and make i short.If a guy who was sorta shy and everything had feelings for one of his girl mates who he was on a course with, so he would see her a lot and he showed lots of signs of liking her and stared at her a lot. But then got asked just what he thought of her in general by her friend and assumed he ment do you have feelngs for her, so he denyed it and said he doesn't have feelngs for her and then he was told that she liked him but he just said how he wants to stay single at the moment, but not to tell her that. Would the staring and stuff just sorta die down a bit(although he still did stare at her) because he knew that she liked him back so there was no need to show as many signs to mak her realise, also because he might feel more comfortable knowing that she feels the same and so didnt show it as much? But he still had feelings for her just didnt see the need to show it that much? Because that happened to a friend of mine and the guy she likes still does stare at her and stuff but since he found out he doesnt show it as much. But i thought if that was me and i knew that a guy i liekd felt the same about me i wouldn't show it as much because i'd know he lieks me and i wouldn't be trying to make it obvious or find out. Sorry if that confused you but i hope you can get what i'm basically asking.
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reader, Deema +, writes (10 June 2008):
 Ooooh this is really confusing. Can't get my head round all the she saids and he saids :))))). Is the person really you and you're too shy to say? Thats how it comes across to me.If it is, don't worry, we're all dorks sometimes so don't be embarrassed. Its all part of being a human. We all get our problems answered on here sometimes, and we all feel just as dorkish, but thats why we are all here to help each other. Aaaaaanyway, so the problem .................. I think he's shy and doesn't want his friends to think he's a wimp by having feelings for a girl, so he's hiding it. That means he won't show her any more how he feels cus she might say something else to someone then he'd be more embarassed. If it were me, I wouldn't push it, althought its frustrating, but just get on with my life and see what happens. Then its up to him if he wants to make a move or not - and he will if he's really interested - but you don't lose your self-respect in the process if he's not. You get to keep your head up ready for the next one. Good luck kid. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2008): No. I would take him literally. If he said "I dont have feelings for her. I want to stay single" what that means is exactly what he said...he doesn't have feelings for her and he wants to stay single. Don't read more into it. Guys are pretty literal.
The reason he has stopped staring at her as much is because he doesn't want to lead her on anymore than he has. Originally he probably thought she was pretty and probably still does but he doesn't want anything...
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