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writes:i and my fiace's been engaged since sept 2009.(been together since sept 2006). He's 27,soon to be 28. I am originally from japan and there were some time we were in the long distance in the past. I moved to australia to be with him about 3 years ago.He's just called off our engagement about 6weeks ago and was totally out of the blue.we were supposed to get married this coming may. Haven't started to plan for wedding as he suggest to do so just after the new year.We lived together so i moved out and move into friend's house 4 days after that. Things he has said are, not sure if we are really right for each other,as he has never had long term relationship before me,thinks too young to get married,and getting a new job which is going to be FIFO and not sure if it works out.I was so sad,felt betroyed.. And couple of weeks ago,he suddenly said we aren't broke up yet. It is a 'break'. And needs few months to think. i said it is okay for me to give him time/space as much as he need. Because i am madly in love with him.to me,he's the one for me and have no doubt about it. I know some may think it isn't a good idea, but i want to wait for him to figure out what he really thinks/feels.Does he just get cold feet? Or he does not love me anymore?I really have no idea.. We barely had argument. Lived happily together past 2 years..he visited my country to meet my family, i am close to his family here. Don't really know what i did wrong:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2011): i would certainly say he has cooled off. And you wont really know why untill you ask him. So sit him down and ask him point blank why he wants this break? Does he have doubts about his feelings for you or this relationship? If so, why? And dont back off till he gives you a satisfactory answer to these questions. Because only then can you decide if theres any point in waiting around or if you should move on with your life.
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reader, asuka1011 +, writes (22 February 2011):
asuka1011 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionplease someone give me your opinion..
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