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Does Flirting Count as Cheating ?

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Question - (6 February 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 6 February 2007)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Wow, okay, this is crazy...lolz, I really like this guy I know. He's lik 29 or 30, and he's really flirty with me. I know he's like this with everyone, but he seems more-so with me. I really like him. It's probably just hormones with me, but he seems really persistant. We're always joking about 'oh, we should go do this', and we just laugh it off, but it's putting ideas into my I really like him, but I don't want to like him like that because of my boyfriend. I like this guy but I LOVE my boyfriend. He's everything to me. I couldn't ruin my relationship with him...But does flirting count as cheating? Especially when we're just joking? I feel guilty sometimes, but it's just fun to laugh with this guy. He makes me comfortable and he's super sweet. I don't want to cheat on my boyfriend...but is this cheating? Help meeeeee!

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A female reader, cd206 United Kingdom +, writes (6 February 2007):

cd206 agony auntPeople define cheating in different ways. To me what you're doing sounds pretty harmless but I don't know that your boyfriend would see it the same way. Personally I see flirting as an excellent way of working off some of that sexual tension between two people so as long as you're firm that flirting is as far as it will go then I really don't think you're doing anything wrong.


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A female reader, dragonette Sweden +, writes (6 February 2007):

dragonette agony auntPersonally, I don't think that what you're doing seems very serious, but different people define "cheating" differently. There are some that think of cheating as exchanging innuendos and flirty glances, while others think it's not cheating until you actually had sex with someone else.

Now, what matters in your case is not what other people think of as cheating but what your boyfriend would consider to be cheating. Next time you're with your colleague, picture in your head how your boyfriend would react if he saw you. If you imagine he would be sad, then be a bit less flirty. If you think he would be cool with that, keep on having fun =) Listen to your feelings, if you feel guilt, then it's an indicator that you think you're going too far.

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A female reader, xkimx United Kingdom +, writes (6 February 2007):

xkimx agony auntno its not cheating just flirting i j=do it with everyone its ok to fancy someone when your with someone asd well it isnt like ur shagging him ior kissing him and like u said u love your bf so let him no that xx

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