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Does anyone else have a fantasy about being watched while having sex?

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Question - (25 April 2008) 9 Answers - (Newest, 10 April 2011)
A female United States age 36-40, *ixeydust writes:

I have these fantasies of another man and\or woman watching me and my boyfriend making love, is this nonsense or is this a turn on for you as well?

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A male reader, brit473 United Kingdom +, writes (10 April 2011):

Liking this isn't strange at all, Hon, most of us harbour fantasies and sometimes we can act on them too. Personally it gives me a great kick to be watched by strangers. You don't have to be an exhibitionist, and yo're Certainly not alone in the idea! Just be a little careful, and be discreet Babe.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008):

Nothing wrong with it at all. In fact it is common. You can explore this with each other by filming each other and watching it in your own privacy. There are other ways which you can use to explore this fantasy. Just use your imagination and try not real hard not to do it anywhere near children.

You might want to try Googling the term 'Dogging'

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A female reader, pixeydust United States +, writes (28 April 2008):

pixeydust is verified as being by the original poster of the question

pixeydust agony auntThank God all of you have been so nice...I thought someone somewhere would call me a freak or something, just to be rude. LOL

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008):

There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. Everyone has different fantasies and having someone watch you with your boyfriend happens to be a fantasy of yours. You are not alone, there are many people out there with that same fantasy. It is definitely a turn on and there's nothing wrong with your fantasy. If you use your imagination we can only imagine the craziest fantasies that men have.

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (26 April 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntSome people at some time in their life have this exhibitionist

tendencies to show off their sexual prowess or skills like those porn stars...

It is one of those fantasies...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008):

So many people have all different sexual fantasies, you can't really describe any of them as nonsense as they are a personal thing. I'm sure a lot of people would be turned on by that :]

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A female reader, smeedle United Kingdom +, writes (25 April 2008):

smeedle agony auntAt some stage in our sexual life this has probably crossed most peoples minds, we start out on our sexual journey just getting straight sex as oftern as possible, then we slow down a bit and relax more, we may go steady or marry, we then start to look for new things to turn us on, it maybe new positions, kinky clothes, sex toys etc, fantasies also come into this sexual experimental time.

Oftern just thinking about the being watched is enough to turn you on and keep you turned on, but maybe you want to take this a step further in which case you will have to discuss this with your partner and if you both agree that you want to bring a "watcher" in then you will have to find someone you can trust and you will have to be specific about the part the third party plays, no good getting someone turned on then saying "sorry but you are only here to watch us" that just wont work.

Think about it carefully, someone else entering the relationship will inevitably change the dynamics, suddenly one of you may get jealouse, things may go further than you feel comfortable with, or get out of hand and go sour.

If this fantasy cannot just stay in your head then talk all this through with your partner and lay down ground rules.

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A female reader, brooke5426 United Kingdom +, writes (25 April 2008):

brooke5426 agony auntPeople have all sorts of weird and wonderful fantasies but the one you described is a pretty common one.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008):

There is nothing wrong with it....I want to do it too!!

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