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writes: My ex "friends with benefits" i guess you could call him was talking to me the other day and asked if i was dating anybody, he has a new gf which is why we are no longer sleeping together, i said i was dating somebody and he asked if it was serious which i said i wasn't sure, well that was over a week ago and i haven't heard from this friend since, which is weird cos we usually talk at least once a week. When i told him i was dating somebody he said "well good luck" and went offline, do you think maybe he's angry or something? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso i would just like to make it clear, i was and am, perfectly aware that he isn't "madly in love with me" my question was why he was asking who i'm dating, that was it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHaha "mooo?" ok, i'll try that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou could be right "ask oldersister" :) he's called me again asking to be friends and that it's worth it, i'm not backing down. I just wonder if he ever feels guilt for the way he is? Doesn't seem so. He asked if we could meet for a drink as friends.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (18 August 2010):
 You can't in my book. If you really love them, you won't cheat on them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, i just wonder how you can love someone if you're cheating on them. I'll never understand that.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 August 2010):
Well done! I'm happy that you've taken that step.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): Well done OP, just make sure you don't give in, don't give him any time to try and win you back over.
You know friends with him is not going to work and if he's a nice guy he'll respect your wishes, something tells me he's not though and he'll keep trying. Just stay strong and tell him to piss off every time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell i've done what i think is best and told him i can't be friends anymore, delted him off facebook. He called me saying he doesn't want to lose me as a friend and can we still meet up, i said no.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (18 August 2010):
 Love makes us all stupid sometimes. It's just part of the human condition. No need to beat yourself up about it too much. You were played by a guy you liked. It happens to the best of us. It's a hard lesson to learn but it's a good one, because learning to separate and move on from those who would rather use than love will serve you well in life.
Go to the one who loves you and shows it to you every day.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni meant "boyfriends". He was the one who perssued me not the other way round which was why i stupidly thought he liked me, i'm sorry for what i did i truly am but the only reason i did was because i liked the guy. I think i need to cut all contact from now on but that's going to be hard as we were friends before all this. I'm dissapointed in myself for believing he'd actually like me and not just want to sleep with me, i've been very stupid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice and please don't judge me as somebody who goes round sleeping with guys girlfriends becuase i don't
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (17 August 2010):
 It seems you want to keep asking this question until someone on here comes on and tells you what you want to hear, which is he loves you madly and is jealous that you are dating and sleeping with some other guy and he isn't talking to you to punish you for making him jealous.
Honey, you falling for what you want to hear is what got you into a friend's with benefits situation in the first place, that and your desire to control men using your sexuality. News flash, men do not respect women who degrades herself by being a standard fuck buddy, your one step up from his palm, the only reason he asks you about how your dates are going is to see if you are still interested in having a booty call with him and to see if you have finally gotten some self respect.
Most likely he is not calling you because he's not into you and he is spending time with his girlfriend whom he actually likes.
I am sorry to be so harsh, but you just don't seem to see where you are delusional, and ego driven and pretty much hurting your self esteem in the process.
Him not being into you is not necessarily a reflection about your datibility or attractiveness or worth as a person, it's about him being a scumbag player and you lowering your standards and allowing yourself to be used like that.
Obviously that is not what you want to hear, but it is the TRUTH.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): It sounds to me like you still want him, well it's obvious he wants to play with you too. So why not just get it over with. You know he's already pretty much cheating with his girlfriend with you anyway if he's doing all these things. So you might aswell just go seal the deal if that's what you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso everytime we spoke it was "how are your dates going?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe flirts with me quite a bit still and the last time i saw him we nearly ended up sleeping together. He asked who the guy was and what does he do etc... The only reason i told him i was dating somebody was because he kept asking.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (17 August 2010):
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-has-a-girlfriend-now-so-what-does.html
He's angry because he lost his fuck buddy. I thought we established that. He doesn't care about you since he's not getting in your pants anymore. He is a player.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): No, I'd say he's just jealous. He'd probably prefer if you weren't with anyone. He might have been considering hooking up again or something.
I wouldn't worry about it, he has no right to be angry at you moving on seeing as he has too.
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