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female
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36-40,
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writes:As soon as I met my now ex I had a huge crush on him, but he completely dissed me. So a couple of months later when I had completely forgotten about him I had him for a class. We started talking for about two or three months then he asked me to be his girlfriend. Well now it's two years later and we've gone through just about everything together. He was my first, I was the first girl he took home to meet his whole family, he learned how to dance for me, stopped smoking for me and many other things. However, he would go out behind my back so like any couple we had our ups and downs. Recently he found a journal that I wrote last year about this guy I had given my number to when I was super mad at him. He immediately broke up with me and wouldn't even give me a second chance. For about a week it was like we never even broke up then I asked him if I had a chance and he said no. So not wanting to be lead on, and also I was not strong enough to just be his friend; I told him that I could not just be his friend and I did not want to speak to him. He just stood there in shock and then finally said he understood and we said our goodbyes. But for two years we never completely stopped talking like this, so i don't know if what i did was wise or not. Anyways the bottom line was i wanted him to miss me and i'm not sure he will.... That's where you all come in do you think he'll miss me enough to give me a second chance?
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reader, thatguy84 +, writes (14 May 2009):
just give it some time, doesnt seem like a bad breakup, dont bombard him with phone calls, texts etc. and if he really cares for you he will miss the good times you had together and contact you
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reader, lover23 +, writes (14 May 2009):
i agree he must be very hurt maybe you should try to talk to him over phone,email,or maybe even in person which ever way helps just try to tell him how you feel.hope this helps
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reader, Mr.Insignificant +, writes (14 May 2009):
 He most certainly misses you but he is deeply hurt, feels violated/betrayal, and doesn't trust you.
Betrayal and breaking one's trust are the proverbial lines that most people draw that shouldn't be crossed. They are ethos that make a persons character; it largely defines them and how they treat others and go about their business.
an apology most likely isn't enough. The ball is in his court and he will need to decide if he can get past this.
While Love is to conquer all, the human condition practically mandates that trust trumps love. Altogether Love is both a welcomed guest and a trespasser based on the trust one has of someone else.
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