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Do we need to use protection and should I ask him to be tested?

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Question - (1 April 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 1 April 2009)
A female Australia age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Do we need to use protection? Me and my boyfriend fool around, lately naked. We don't actually have intercourse, he just insterts his penis in the opening not inside, he doesn't ehh cum or anything, he has been sexually active before with at least 3 women, I haven't. I know this is dumb but do we need to use protection? and do I need to ask him to get tested? I mean could I catch anything from that?

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A female reader, Fiona xxx United Kingdom +, writes (1 April 2009):

Fiona xxx agony auntYou have been scating on thin ice, risking falling pregnant, and that's if you want to hide away from the risk of catching something.

It sounds like you have been holding back from having sex, but to all intents and purposes it is sex. I am suprised he held back as much as that.

So please be careful and just use condoms. That way you won't have to worry about having the sex. There is little difference emotionally between what you are doing now and full sex.

Fiona.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009):

crimson what do u mean it is still intercourse ??

and all thanks for ur replys alot

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A female reader, crimson_kiss United States +, writes (1 April 2009):

crimson_kiss agony auntFirst off, yes, he and you should be tested. Second, ALWAYS use a condom. Take it from my past experience, you just never know these days. If his penis is coming into contact with you, you should be protected. Also, if he is inserting his penis even slightly into the opening of your vagina, hun...you are having intercourse!

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A female reader, Triskaedeka102 Canada +, writes (1 April 2009):

Triskaedeka102 agony auntThe answer is yes. If he hasn't been sexually active that's not too bad, though better play safe than sorry. However, in this case, condom is a must. There are two things you can do: go with him and have him checked for STD or any other important thing that you will need to know in case you will get sexually active with him. Second option, you always always use condom. I know I'm being paranoid by you going with him to the doctor, I'm just saying that you need some kind of proof that he's free of STDs. If he's mature, he'll understand. I mean it's not his fault for being attractive, but it will be his fault if he doesn't care about you concerning this. Good luck :]

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A female reader, jessica04 United States +, writes (1 April 2009):

jessica04 agony aunt1) Yes you need to use protection. Though he doesn't ejaculate in you, the seminal fluid or "precum" that emits from his penis contains sperm in it. Even if it is just in the opening of your vagina, you can still get pregnant.

2) You need to use protection because HE HASN'T BEEN TESTED! If he has been sexually active with 3 women before you and has never been tested, then he needs to get his butt to the clinis and have them run the full gamet of tests. This isn't something to fool around about. i'm not saying that he has anything, but it's better safe than sorry, right? Especially with the risk of HIV and herpes and HPV. Why chance it?

3) Yes, any skin to skin contact can result in the transfer of an STD.

Please, both of you, go get tested for the sake of health.

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