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Do other christian girls masturbate?

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Question - (21 November 2009) 12 Answers - (Newest, 21 July 2014)
A female United States age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Do other christian girls masturbate? i feel like im doing something horrible. I dont have a boyfriend and never even had one. Lately ive been so horny so i wanted to hear more stories about girls my age who do and are strong believers too. I know its not a major sin but it still feels wrong kind of. Please I hope I hear from a lot of girls cuz I feel alone. Please write back if you are in a similar situation. I don't even think of sinful thoughts most of the time. I just do it for sexual release, the purpose of masturbation.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2014):

Masturbation is not specificaly named in the bible but the bible speaks around the situation. Lust is always involved in masturbation. I hav the same issue. I suggest that you pray 4 dealiverance 4rm God.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2011):

there is noting wrong with masturbating if your not thinking sinful thoughts when you do it. I don't think He would be displeased at all.

I also think it would be ok to cum also.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009):

I'm a christian woman masturbator and I don't feel bad about it. I masturbate when I can't defile myself with my heathen boyfriend and I don't really see anything wrong with it. I've read the Bible a few times over and I never found "thou shall not stimulate thy clitoris" anywhere.

I'm thinking about starting a Christian Self-Pleasure Camp for young women where we can get together to masturbate and talk about Godly and morally correct things.

Keep flicking the bean!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009):

i don't think there is anything wrong with self-pleasure especially if you think its lowering built up sexual tension.

I am 21 and also a christian, Prior to my marriage a couple of months back, i was regularly masturbating whenever i was turned on and whenever i was finding it hard falling asleep.

I do remember a couple of times mid-way through i would stop and feel an overwhelming sense of guilt......

..... I got over it after a while, because i saw no wrong-doings. It's a little extra 'you-time' so your not spending that kind of 'together' time if your not ready to!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009):

As a Christian - "lust" is one of the 7 deadly sins and masturbation is a form of lusting after someone! - After all - we don't masturbate thinking of pretty colours or the nice countryside do we? - We masturbate when we are turned on sexually by something or someone.

Having said this it is an enjoyable and tension relieving exercise and that is why most people do it. - Unfortunately in life, most things that are enjoyable are often classed as sins too. That's why a lot of people try to play masturbation down by saying "it's natural" or "it's normal".

Remember - the path to Heaven is said to be thin and narrow - but the path to Hell is wide and open!!- Easier to end up there you see!! -

So yes - I would say masturbation is a sin - that is why a lot of people feel guilt afterwards - although, obviously it isn't as grave as sleeping around non stop or purposely commiting adultery for example.

Well, I hope I havn't scared you off - you probably know all this anyway being a Christian! Having said all this I'm a Christian too and have masturbated but I'm sure I have done worse things in life which I regret more - so I will leave it in the hands of fate..! - Good luck to you too!

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A male reader, softtouchmale2003 United States +, writes (22 November 2009):

softtouchmale2003 agony auntInstead of feeling guilty about this, remind yourself that God gave you a body that works in all sorts of ways. And that's important.

Forget the preachers, forget the judgmentalisms; forget all the taboos about masturbation. Its all made up junk.

If you weren't meant to enjoy sex, then God would've made it hard to enjoy it. So there it is in a nutshell.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009):

You mentioned that its not a big sin, but you know it is a sin whether big or small, its like comparing stealing to murder.

Masturbating falls under fornication, if you feel guilty doing it dont. Why not pray? Find other ways of relieving stress. Maybe through sports or something that takes alot out of you, forget if everyone else is doing it.

Its so easy do do wrong things whether as a Christian or whoever and then make excuses to justify what they know is wrong but want to stick their heads in the sand, to avoid the the truth of it.

As a Christian you should know that you shouldnt follow others, especially for your comfort, you are asking us to justify what you know is wrong, to give you comfort for doing it. If something is wrong it is just that, in this case in the sight of God and you as a believer. So honey i suggest you do what is right as a believer in the sight of God, talk to Him not us.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2009):

I am also a christian and I too masterbate.It's not something I'm proud of but I cant help myself.I am 14 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. I wouldnt say im sexually fustrated. Its just, like you- I like to release that tension.I am that age where my hormones are allover the place and it helps me relax.

I dont think my christian views support this, in some ways its a type of temptation.Although it feels nice and everything afterwards- I always feel dirty.So I guess in my opinion -its wrong. Cause if it wasnt ,my concious wouldnt be guilty.But the answer to your question would be yes.I hope this was helpful.

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A female reader, dianalynn1821 United States +, writes (21 November 2009):

dianalynn1821 agony auntFirst let me tell you that masturbating is one of the most natural human things to do. Do not feel bad for your body needing the sexual relief. Its completely ok. What you also are doing is by letting all the sexual tension out, your stopping yourself from possibly commiting a sexual act with a boy. This is a very good thing if you are Christian and wanting to save yourself. Masturbating is very healty for the body. Millions of girls of all ages and different religions masturbate. Many will not admit it but you are not the only one. Do not feel bad about yourself.

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A female reader, Miss. Courtney United States +, writes (21 November 2009):

I was masterbating from the very beginning of my hormones and that was when I was like 10 yrs old. I was real big in church too and it sucked because at that age I didnt even understand hormones.. I had it bad bc my hormones were so crazy I was sneaking HBO and watching women wondering if I was gay or something.. Im def not a lesbian but I think it was because things were too gross when men were involved, I wasnt even really into boys at that age and I guess I was trying to watch women to figure my own self out. I felt like a pervert and I knew it was wrong bu it was like I couldnt help it. I kept wondering why God gave us hormones that strong if we werent supposed to do anything about it. I honestly think releasing ur sexual frustration is something u to do, and atleast it is keeping u from being with a guy just to fill that craving.. if u are a virgin and feel like ur doing wrong by having sex with whatever ur masterbating with then get something that vibrates and use it on ur clit so u dont have to insert anything into ur body.. My mom bought me a hand held massager kit and I ended up using the finger sized massager to help me out.. I eventually got brave and went into a sex store one day and bought a "bullet" for like $6 and ud be surprised the magic it does.. u should def order one online if u dont want to go into a store- comes in a secret package.. anyways- yea dont feel bad for masturbating bc if u didnt tend ur problem then worse things could happen and atleast ur doing it in a healthy way. Id love to say ull grow out of it but mine are just as strong now as they ever were.. only thing that ever calmed my hormones was a particular birth control I used to take but it also made me very emotional- I was like crying for no reason like someone had just ran over my dog..

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2009):

hey there,

I am a christian girl too. I felt and i guess still do feel the same way you do about the subject. I'm not a particularly strict christian though. I don't follow everything by the book as i think many people interperate thing differently or wrongly. I go by what i feel myself. I sometimes think that god put things in there that were to be relevant at the time and to guide people who were lost at that point. I understand the urges and i did a lot of things too. I can't say if it is right or wrong. I just think that we have an understanding god who put us in these bodies.I think he would be glad as a father would that you arn't running into the arms of a man you havn't married yet. Some people said that the urges are to test you, but i think in the book it says how if you feel that need to sleep with someone you should marry them, if you feel nothing then you should stay pure for him. So i think the urges just tells you the difference that you arn't one of those people who can substain from sex and would need to marry at some point.

I say do what you feel is right. If you believe in him, then he should guide you. Pray to him and let him show you the way.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2009):

Don't feel guilty, it's okay. I have been with a guy before but right now we are broken up, so I can't do anything else besides please myself. Because I feel it's wrong to go look for guys just for sex, ewww. I'm sure other christian girls masturbate, plus I never seen in the bible or heard that it's bad. And everyone has some kind of bad thoughts every now and then, just remember we are not perfect. so if your doing things unintentionally without knowing weather it's right or not don't feel bad okay? Fornication is bad and you're not doing nothing but pleasing yourself, as a virgin. You're clean & pure sweetie, be happy. :)

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