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writes: After fooling around, meaning no sex, my boyfriend always wants me to give him a handjob. he says that sperm have gone into his penis and it hurts if not relieved meaning he has to cum. so my question is do men need to ejaculate after being aroused/having an erection or it causes them pain?
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reader, jmcrea  +, writes (3 August 2009):
As another person indicated, it does vary from guy to guy. I personally suffer from the safe problem as your boyfriend, in as much as when I am VERY aroused from a lot of foreplay, my semen seems to become "staged" at the "gate" of my prostate, and the prostate gland becomes very swollen, as well as my testicles a bit, and after I had some MAJOR pain and headaches as a result, my younger girlfriend began performing fellatio to extract and swallow all of what was moved up from the arousal...if we could not make love due to it being her menstrual cycle, etc.
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reader, jmcrea +, writes (3 August 2009):
As another person indicated, it does vary from guy to guy. I personally suffer from the safe problem as your boyfriend, in as much as when I am VERY aroused from a lot of foreplay, my semen seems to become "staged" at the "gate" of my prostate, and the prostate gland becomes very swollen, as well as my testicles a bit, and after I had some MAJOR pain and headaches as a result, my younger girlfriend began performing fellatio to extract and swallow all of what was moved up from the arousal...if we could not make love due to it being her menstrual cycle, etc.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (23 October 2006):
 In a word: no
Men get erections all the time. On average we get 20 per day! If we had to ejaculate every time we got an erection we'd need balls the size of watermelons...
What your boyfriend means is that he is turned on and would LIKE VERY MUCH to be 'relieved'. But wouldn't we all, after all ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2006): I am not sure about there being sperm in his penis after just being aroused, however I think he's probably being truthful about the rest. When I've been very aroused and nothing has followed I've ached quite badly down there as well, and cumming seems to be the best way to stop it, as otherwise it aches really badly for quite some time. This has happened to me only a few times, but as with everything else everyone is different and it could be a more common occurence with your bf then it is for others.
I would take it as quite a compliment as your bf obviously gets very very aroused by you!
If you don't want to give him a blowjob or sex it may be advisable to give him the ok to relieve himself on such occasions.
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