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anonymous
writes:I don't mean excessively, like being stalked or texted every two seconds, but the man I am interested in is notorious for not keeping in touch with anyone of his own accord. We go to the same college, and sometimes (maybe once or twice a week) I wait for him outside his classroom to say hi and talk for a bit. He always seems happy to see me, and even though he usually has things to do after class (and I have a class 10 minutes after his ends) we'll keep talking for quite a while, sometimes an hour if I don't have class. Occasionally he comes and visits my class too, but never stays as long and we don't get to talk as much.Also, we text almost every day. The thing is, I always have to text first. If I don't, I don't hear from him. Like I said, he is kind of known for being a bad correspondent, and usually nobody else can get a reply from him, but still! Even though he always texts me back and we have good conversations that often don't end until midnight when I fall asleep or tell him goodnight, I can't get over the feeling that I am bugging him and that if he really cared, he would contact me, instead of my always having to initiate things.It's not that he seems annoyed by my attention or that once our conversations get started they're one-sided (he talks more than I do!) but like I said, I feel like I am the pursuer and I would kind of like to be pursued at this point.What do you think? Am I trying too hard? Should I stop texting and visiting him for a while and see what happens? Or continue what I've been doing and hope for the best?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2011): With all of the guys I've ever won over I ignore them for a while till they come sniffing around for me then I give them about an hours time before I go back to ignoring them. Sooner or later they're going to ask you what's up then you can mention that a guy who's not your boyfriend shouldn't be so interested in you and that you could use a boyfriend if he wanted to keep being interested. They usually seem kind of shocked then they move fast.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (22 May 2011):
Ask him out for a drink or something like that. It's a way of getting you two together for more than 10 minutes and have a proper chat and see what happens.
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