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writes:Ok, so my girlfriend has told me that she fooled around with her ex-boyfriend (her boyfriend at the time), and I mean I want to know exactly how far they went together but not really sure how to ask or even to ask, I mean I really care about her and don't want anything to change from the answer but at the same time my mind is constantly roaming to the subject and thinking about what might have happened. I don't think it will change anything of how far they really went if she told me but I don't know sometimes it just makes it weird when I'm talking to her, on the phone, cause I start to think about it. But then when we're in person it's like I wouldn't know what she was talking about is she mentioned it because all I can think about at the time is us and no one else.
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (3 January 2008):
 In all honesty some things are best left unanswered (like talking about previous partners) things changed and insecurities grow the fact is she is with you now not him so just learn to get over her past and work on your futures.
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reader, mama2three +, writes (3 January 2008):
 I would leave it be, if she wants you to know, she'll tell you :)
Sometimes, even though people might not think so, learning their partner's past sex life can stir up some jealous feelings, and maybe not even jealousy, but they are not positive feelings. Let it be, and if she tells you, that's great! I know it's hard, but *try* not to think about it. Everyone has a past, but you are her present...focus on that!
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