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writes: My single best friend has a few medical issues that prevent her from working full time, so she can only work on a casual basis, she also has been very hurt by men in the past. She drinks to cope with this,not getting drunk but regular drinking to relax her. Shes very sarcastic and quite self absorbed at times -its almost always about her, im quieter, but assertive mostly and have to really try at times to get her to talk about other things. Ive been there for her a lot this past year.She knows she drinks and for the moment isnt going to stop, yes she is becoming dependant.. She has recently become good friends with another woman,(which is fine, we all need other friends,) who is very outgoing and confident and witty and also has medical issues, potentially much more serious though and they both get together on wknds to talk work issues and drink and "bond" and spend time with this others womans kid. Now my best friend is said on the phone last night that this other woman is "the best freind shes ever had" do I not exist now that this other person is here? i felt so hurt when she said this.. felt very upset and not important anymoreAm i being pushed aside for this outgoing other freind who appears to have my freind only wanting to spend time with her?, she talks on the phone a lot to her when im with her.i try to give them space, do i just forget my freind now she has a new best freind?what do I do? let them both "drink and bond"?feel hurt and dont want to lose my freind to this other woman (f/ship only here!!)
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (11 July 2009):
 Well I still think you should make an effort to get to know her better. The other woman is probably lonely and happy to make such a good friend. In the meantime keep talking to your friend and don't let this friendship die without a fight if she is important to you.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (11 July 2009):
Talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. Tell her that while you're glad she has a new friend, you miss her and you think of her as your best friend. Make some time to hang out with your friend and with both of them together - you might find out that the three of you have a lot in common!
Good luck.
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