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writes:me and my boyfriend have been together 6 months now.we love each other and i believe as a couple we are very strong.however i came across a comment on a networking site that he'd made 5months ago to a girl he was seeing about 10 months back (nothing serious) the comment said "you look very pretty in your profile picture ;)"this has upset me greatly as i got cheated on by my last boyfriend and found out because of this same networking site, through pictures of them and comments etc.anyway, i know it was right at the start of our relationship, and im nearly 100% sure he doesnt talk to this girl anymore but its still hurt me alot, i really thought i could trust him until now.i dont want to bring it up incase its nothing, but do i have reason to be worried, or do guys say things like this all the time and it means nothing? i mean i do know he loves me, was this a comment i should just ignore?thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (5 February 2009):
 Girlfriend, stop worrying. The way he phrased it was so sterile! Not a "daaaaamn, girl!!" or a "You look so amazingly hot in your pic". Just a "you look pretty". He could've said that to his sister! If he really was after her, he would've at least sent her a message and not had it be a public comment.
If I found something like that that my boyfriend sent to an ex, I'd be snarl and say some nasty things under my breath - I'd feel just like you. But, I don't think it's really anything to worry about and certainly nothing to put your boyfriend in the doghouse for. Unless he's given you more reasons to distrust him, I don't think this is anything to be concerned about.
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (5 February 2009):
The other day I was chatting to my male friend. (I am married.) I was saying about how stressed I was about my complete failure to find something to wear to my sister's wedding. My hubbie is an usher so I'll be alone most of the day and don't want to look too cold / tall / thermally insulated.
He said that he was sure I'd look amazing no matter what I wore which I thought was sweet.
Now, if he has a girlfriend who saw that comment out of context, it might have looked dodgy.
Yes this girl is his ex but if she is having a bad day and feeling ugly then he might be just being nice.
It was 5 months ago so let it lie.
He wouldn't have been with you this long if he didn't want to. Go and kiss him now and you'll feel better.
Good Luck!! xx
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