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Do I have a problem with sex?

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Question - (5 December 2007) 5 Answers - (Newest, 6 December 2007)
A male United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My Penis is too small. I have had only 1 partner and when see saw my penis she said "is That It" a week later she left me because my penis is to small. I worried that i cant please a women..

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A male reader, chlez83 Zambia +, writes (6 December 2007):

I've been on self therapy when it comes to that issue because i used to think i had one of the smallest penises in the world.It seems alot of guys have a BIG problem of comparing their members to others' members forgetting that women's vaginas also vary just like men's penises vary.If you had to look and measure vaginas you'd be amazed at the variations.ALOT of us guys are under the impression that to satisfy a woman your member has to be almost the size of a horse's member.To better understand what sex is all about,you need to ask yourself what you are trying to achieve by having sex.The natural response is to sexually satisfy and relieve each other.But doing that isn't so simple especially for women.Why? Because most men don't know what to do for their partners to be sexually satisfied and rely mainly on their penises.Be assured that even if you had the largest penis in the world and didn't know how to sexually satisfy your woman,she'd have still left you.So my bro,don't waste time worrying about your penis but worry about how to give her the big "O".The bigger the penis the more painful for a woman.Pain isn't pleasure and takes away from the enjoyment of sex.If you want ask how many women in here want a very big penis in them.I once had the same fears as you.Unless your's like a two year old's,i can promise you,you are more than capable.My ex was a mother of two and i gave her full satisfaction but my penis is JUST average and do not wish to add inches in any way possible.Be proud of what you have and use it in a unique way.Always remember,she must love you for who you are and not what you are.

Take care.

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A female reader, missmel34 Australia +, writes (6 December 2007):

missmel34 agony auntGo Kenny, exactly what I was going to say.

Look, they come in all different shapes and sizes...just like breasts do. One of the most demoralising things though are porn movies, because I think men feel thats what a girl wants. I can tell you...girls do NOT want a penis that big, and I assure you, it wouldn't be coming anywhere near me.

Being a good lover isn't about having a reasonable size penis. In fact some of the better lovers I've had have been a touch on the smaller side. The bigger the penis, the more the guy tends to rely on penetration to the detriment of other activites.

A good lover is attentive to your needs, sensual, loving. A guy who gives great massages, who gives fantastic oral sex. For me a guy who isn't afraid to use a sex toy. And above all else, makes love to me, adores me. Makes me feel like I'm the only woman in the world.

No where in what I have just described, does it say.."must have a big cock".

She didn't deserve you. Don't let this one shallow woman effect your confidence with other women.

There are plenty of good, thoughtful sensual women out there.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (5 December 2007):

kenny agony auntI feel you have let this one bad experience affect your confidence with other woman. This girl was out of order saying this, and she was probably completely inexperienced and diden't know what she was talking about anyway. Don't let what she said ruin your confidence, she was a proper jerk. You can please woman, and in more ways than one. Have you ever heard the term, " its not the size that counts, but how you use it" If this girl had a brain she would have known this. I also think that if a girl really loves you then the size of your appendage should not matter anyway.

All the best & good luck

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007):

That woman is an idiot. The size doesn't matter. It is how you work it. Seriously.

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A male reader, honeyross United Kingdom +, writes (5 December 2007):

honeyross agony auntSome women are really shallow and think that the size of a man's penis is more important than who he is and what he does in bed. These women aren't worth worrying about.

Your confidence should not be affected by the size of your penis. The most sensitive part of a woman's vagina is the outside - a small penis can stimulate these areas quite easily. Also, the foreplay a woman gets is often more important to her than penetration.

If you'd still be happier with a penis which is a little bigger, surgery is not advised. Exercise programs designed to increase size actually do work but they require a lot of self-discipline.

What is important is that you are confident with who you are as a person. A big penis doesn't make someone a man. Many men with big penises are not even men - just silly little boys.

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