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writes:Hi.a guy ive just been dating suggested we settle down together,i love him to pieces and wana spend my life with him but im almost 21(hes 40) and my friends say i have my future ahead of me and i should wait but i love him...do i follow my heart or listen to other ppls opinions? X Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2008): Of course he wants to settle down, so he can have a trophy wife as a hostage. Get real, you will be so bored with him in a few years. Especially when he starts talking about retirement and you are in your prime wanting to have fun. Keep it light and eventually find someone closer to your own age.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (9 September 2008):
 "Just been dating"? How long have you been dating? And what exactly does he mean by "settling down"?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2008): You should listen to your heart. me and my boyfriend have been dating 4 months im 16 and he's 22 we love eachother and that love doesn't let it effect our ages.My family and friends came around when they saw how happy we were so trust your heart and if anything goes wrong your friends are always there.
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reader, Annalisa +, writes (8 September 2008):
 Although I've met the odd couple who knew they were meant for each other from the beginning (namely my husband and I and his parents... that's it), most people, including us, would tell you that the passionate love you feel now is little more than lust and it will not be enough to make a marriage work!
Love actually happens with time, after you've got to know each other well and have shared hard times.
If you both believe in respecting a commitment and supporting each other through life, then good luck to you, you will have a good chance, but if either of you believes in divorce and is selfish, you're doomed.
You should get to know him better, first, talk about your respective views on life, the world and everything, including religion and politics, his mother, raising a family and coping with temptations and other stuff you might think of.
If you get on well, agree or at least can respect and compromise on your views, you're half way there.
Take your time, after all, if he loves you so much, what's the hurry?
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reader, 05hughesk +, writes (8 September 2008):
 Hiya,
People do give you a lot of sugestions in this type of situation .. but the best thing to do is just follow your heart .. it could last .. it could be a mistake .. but everyone learns from their mistakes ..and you never no what could happen if you dont try ..good luck x
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