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writes:Hi so I have this friend at school lets call her R on the first day me and her were besties with S and N. N ditched her. R was upset. So, me, R, G, S, Sh and sometimes Ao hung out at lunch. Then R started acting bitchy and started bossing us about. We'd be like let's eat in d cafeteria and she'd b like no lets eat in d toilets. I hated eating their.She was scared of the seniors which is why we had to eat there. And I'd say y can't we eat in d cafeteria she'db like there's no room or it's too noisy. Excuses. Anytime u talk she interrupts and says its not all about u. And she always asks for money when I'm not allowed to give away my money. Sometimes she's nice but overall bossy. And when u say or do something to her she'db in a hissy fit. So then recently I started eating with Jo and A, J,Shn,Ni and others in d cafeteria then outside. I love eating with them. Then the next day I would eat with them. So now I eat with them everyday it's better than the toilets.So my question is should I stay friends with R or should I tell my teacher? Last time I tried to tell with Ao and Sh but we didn't cuz we didn't want to lose her as a friend! My mum says what I did was smart and that I should b friends with her and some people just have that attitude.Britney xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2013): I think your mom is right. She needs to find her own way of not acting so weird. You can't eat your lunch in the toilet because one of your friends is scared. If she's being bullied then get your mom to talk to her parents. That way you can say you had nothing to do with it.
Your friend sounds like she's in a bad way perhaps OP, she may have severe social anxiety due to bullying or other such reason but no one in their right mind would eat food in a toilet. it may also go some to explaining why she can be bossy and overbearing too.
Stay friends with her but tell her you won't be eating in a toilet anymore but that you'd like her to come sit you with you in the canteen as you miss having lunch with her.
OP friends go through bad times, you will too. I don't see any reason to ditch her, if she decides to ditch you because you no longer do what she says then fair enough, you have to live your own life too.
Look you'd know better than anyone if she's being bullied or what the story is with her at school. Talk to your mom again about perhaps speaking to her parents, maybe you could write a note to a teacher anonymously explaining what's happening and they can discuss her behaviour with her parents. "A certain student spends all her lunch eating alone in the toilet out of fear, you may want to check that out, it seems she may be in some kind of trouble."
Would be the note that I would send, or I'd talk to the most trustworthy teacher and tell her to go in and find her there "by chance".
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (27 March 2013):
 I'll have to come back to your post, my head hurts really really bad at this moment....
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