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female
age
51-59,
*now lover
writes:I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 8 months now. We both have children that live with us. So far the relationship has been smooth, no fighting, no drama etc. I went to have my tarot read a few months ago and i was told that we were both guarded, as we did not want to get hurt. We had both been hurt in our past marriages. I’m divorced and he is a widow. I was told he was similar to my ex and I was just ignoring the signs. In the reading, I was told my boyfriend was just mirroring me and he was selfish. I was told that until I work on myself I would continue to attract the same type of man and I deserve more. After the tarot reading, I went home upset, as I had not expected such a poor reading. Over the next few weeks, I tried to pay more attention to any similarities my boyfriend had to my ex. It did not take long at all. Within hours, I noticed his anger issues and all the other similarities. Some of these are he has the same name as my ex, he is the only male sibling, he played baseball, likes the same chocolate as my ex, has issues from his past that he has not dealt with. These are petty similarities but there are so many its uncanny.I told my boyfriend upfront when we met that I could not have him move in with me and my children. So here, we are in a relationship that looks like its hit a dead end. He bought a house close to me; we do lots together such as meals, grocery shopping, and daytrips with the kids, camping, etc. We spend about 95% of our time together after work. I don’t see anything changing in the near future and I’m worried that if it did change I would get burned again like I did with my ex.So my question is should I end it and just remain friends? We have always agreed to maintain a friendship if we called the relationship off. Then I could try to focus on myself, or do I continue with the relationship that will never develop fully?
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reader, snow lover +, writes (6 September 2010):
snow lover is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyou guys are all telling me what I wanted to hear. The relationship has been wonderful and I need to lower my guard and give fully. I am happy with this man, I do love him and I feel he loves me too.
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reader, Plain Jane  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 Base on my own experience, I will also turn to Astrology when I have trouble in relationship. Tarot card reading only predict the current situation with no firm answer for your future relationship. later I found Numerology makes gives more solid answer, try this www.matchmakingnumerology.com using your birthdate and his to calculate and compare. Quite fun !
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 This is why such things as Tarot readings should be done with caution. When having your future 'predicted', your mind tends to try and link everything to fit your 'reading'. Before this reading, you never even bothered to take notice of such things, the 'similarities' were not noticeable otherwise you would not have needed the tarot reading to have seen the similarities. Give this man a chance. You should not compare one man to another because everyone is different.
If you enjoy your time with him and if he is good to you, you must give him a proper chance and give yourself a proper chance to be happy.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): forget the tarot,, that justs drives people crazy... give the person some time get 2 know him and stop being afraid risk it...
" he who doesnt risk will never know if he won "
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