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writes:ok so my question is a little complicated, as in double sided. on the one hand, i'm avoiding some friends of mine because they are either trying to get with me or trying to set me up with one of their friends....it's taken me a long time to even be around/talk or hug guys again because of some really bad things that have happened in my past...it's starting to overwhelm me and really starting to hurt the friendships....the problem is one of my friends....it seems like she's blackmailing me because she knows about me almost being raped and she keeps hinting that she'd going to tell other people if i don't hang out with her and her friend (the one she's trying to get me with) the problem is, she's my friend, and she knows a lot of my secrets that very few other people know...whenever i don't hang out with her it seems that one of those secrets gets out to other people. i'm starting to really question her because there was something only she knows and a friend who moved away long before it happened texted me last night and asked if it was true. i've brought the problem up to her and she says it's not true, but everything is pointing at her....i don't know what to do....believe the 4 other friends who have told me, or believe her that she really didn't tell :((PLSE HELP
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (10 March 2010):
 It sounds like the friend who is blackmailing you is a complete bitch and not a friend.
I am sorry to hear you were raped. That must have been an awful experience. You must know that this is nothing to be ashamed of and you cant blame yourself for that.
If she didnt tell anyone, is there anyone else you have told besides her? If not then it must have come via her.
Time to get new friends I think. Hope it works out.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (10 March 2010):
 Stop calling this girl your friend because shes not.
A true friend would never betray you or your secrets.
She just uses you for company,because shes insecure to stay alone.
Get out of the situation. Rape isnt something you should be ashamed of. It's something serious that almost happened to you,and you don't have to explain anything to anyone you dont want or apologize for it.
Let your "friend" know you aint going to see her anymore and she can say whatever she wants about you,because you don't give a ****. Show her you're not scared and hang out with people who respect you!
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