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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been having this problem for many years now. I never had it when I was younger. I am in my late twenties. I meet cute, smart guys who seem interested when I go out. I go on a couple of dates with them. Well, we usually hang out together as a group of their and my friends. We do spend some alone time as well. I like to watch games, I am really into video games. I am not very athletic but I like playing sports or working out for fun. I try to play instruments. I am always trying to make myself better but not in the "traditional" way. I am not the motherly type. I was never into kids or being a mother or a housewife. Anyways, these guys come and go and its always the same situation. I meet their friends and they tell me how "cool" he thinks that I am. However, after sometime they stop calling me. Maybe after two months. And I don't contact ever again of course. Then all of a sudden they send me a text apologizing for their behavior along with some excuse they couldn't be better to me. Here is the thing they don't ask me out again. They just apologize. Even though I appreciate the apologies I would rather have someone behave right in the first place. I don't know what I am doing wrong. I am starting to think even though guys say they don't want the motherly type maybe they actually do. Maybe I need to learn to "take care" of a guy even though I find that idea almost repulsive. (They are not kids!) I would love to hear your opinion!
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (14 June 2013):
 Changing yourself to attract a guy is not the answer. Being yourself and staying true to yourself is what you need to do in order to attract the right guy for you. You're not interested in many guys right? You just want that one guy who gets you, understands you and can relate to you.
That kind of connection is rare. In the meantime you may kiss a lot of frogs before one of them turns into your prince.
We've all done it, so you're not alone.
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