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writes: Ok. Well, I've contemplated writing in here, but ever heard the saying "You'll go nuts if you don't talk to someone?", yeah. Well that's me. I'm a single mom of a daughter who is 13. I got into a relationship not knowing this man was married. When I found out he was, I split with him. You know I'm usually a good judge of character. He really fooled me. Problem is, shortly after our breakup, I found out I was pregnant. So here I am, he's still married, says he will never tell her, doesn't want to help me and I'm so scared alone. I'm in my 5th month now. It's difficult. At worse, he's a cop. I know... they have that reputation. But I didn't see it coming. I guess I'm too naive. I know where he lives with her and her number. But It's never been my place to tell her. I never will. It's just not my place. It's his. I can't hurt someone and put them through what I'm going through. It's horrible. AND to be pregnant at that. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2006): i'm sorry, I hope it works out...
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (30 November 2006):
 I'd tell him that you expect child support and if you don't get it you'll go through the courts. He'll have no choice BUT to tell his wife. You were not at fault here, he decieved you so don't beat yourself up over it. He needs to face his responsibilities, make him. Good luck, being a single parent is tough but it can have it's own special joys as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for the responses. I truly appreciate them.
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (29 November 2006):
 My heart is with you. You have a lot to cope with it but try to be strong. Do it for yourself and for your baby. Rise above and forget about him and his family. You are better off without him anyway.
You are not alone, you can do this! Find out about help groups through local authority and GP for extra support.
I am sure that one day you will find a nice person who deserve all the love you have to give. Dont be so harsh on yourself, the naive bit, even if you get to 100 years old you still have a lot to learn. Focus on what you can do, stay positive and move on with your life by taking control. Lots of hugs from me.
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reader, guylostinlove +, writes (29 November 2006):
you didn't mention if you want to keep the baby ...
i guess it's been quite a few months (?) since you found out that you were pregnant ... means you are keeping the baby?
well, if you're up to raising the child alone, you should at least have him pay child support and all associated costs plus a little extra on top! have it in writing, don't take his word for it. if he refuses then you'll just have to go through legal proceedings i figure ... at that point, you can't help it if his wife will find out. can't say if you should followup with his wife or not .....
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