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41-50,
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writes:i have liked this guy, who works as a contractor to the buildling i work at, for about 6 months now.he seems to get on very well with the guys in the building and has a lot of friends, but when it comes to women he seems to clam up no matter who it is, and seems to get embarrassed and then walks away from the conversion! with me he makes fun of me, bit not in a bad way and i do the same with him, just a bit of banter, so i thought he was starting to like me.Anyway about 4 months ago i decided to write a very brief letter to him but i didn't sign it, i just wanted to test the water before i revelled who i was.i just said that if he was curious about who sent it, he could ring or text the mobile number i included in the letter.my problem is i have heard nothing and i haven't seen him in a while, but last week he had to work in our building but he has totally ignored me and is doing his best to avoid me!! i am a big girl and i can deal with the fact of him not wanting to date me but his behaviour is really something else, even other people have started to notice!!it is obvious from his behaviour that he has guessed the letter was from me, and no one else in the building knows i did it, so no one could have told him.I just want to know why is he acting like this, he is not a kid, he is 37!! he is making me feel stupid and embarassed and the thought of going out with me would be the worst thing imaginable for him!!so can anyone please tell me what the hell is going on?? after all it was only a letter not a marriage proposal, so why is he freaking out???
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): Well how would you feel would you be freaked out? or think it was really sweet? Chances are most women would be surprised but they would think it was really romantic like a secret admirer, Well Men are different Men are not romantic by nature that come later in the courtship for them, they see things differently Men are hunters whatever there age, they like to chase women It might sound old fashioned but you where doing is chasing him any man you chase run guaranteed. it doesn’t Matter whether your Pat butcher or Jennifer Ellison’s double looks have nothing to do with it or whether you’ve got a super personality, they will take who they’ve “hunted down” themselves who they’ve desired who there’ve had to chase cos. they’ve seemed unavailable, Is he being a silly arsehole to you about it? of course but did you expect a great outcome from taking it upon yourself to initiate this romance? He’s being disrespectful towards you and that isn’t fair the only way you can fight this is to now take time off to give to yourself join a gym to make yourself feel better, pamper yourself at the salon make sure the next time he sees you look a million dollars you have a good heart and lots of love to give so start by loving yourself, go on Match.com your will defiantly find lots of men who think your attractive it’s a good way of reclaiming your self esteem, you may not like what Im telling you but you know it’s the truth,
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (27 August 2007):
 Maybe he's married?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): You said he gets along well with the guys there, but not the women. Maybe he is gay? Also, you can find out anyone's number even if it is a cell phone number, by searching online! So I am pretty sure the letter was not totally anonymous! You said he clams up and just leaves the converstaion when he's talking to a woman. That sounds very odd to me. I think he has some emotional issues. It sounds like he is afraid of women! That is odd being his age. He is probably just very embarassed and feels akward. If there is a way you can see him alone where you work, you should apologise for making him feel uncomfortable and then ask him out. At this point you have not much to lose. If you don't want to do that, all you can do is to ignore him back. Sorry it ended up this way. It is best to be direct b/c writing an anonymous letter leaves so many chances for it to be unreplied to, especially with a guy who's awful with women.
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