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30-35,
anonymous
writes:im not sure what to do in this situation. i told the girl i love that i couldnt be her friend no more because i respect her relationship with her boyfriend and the fact that he makes her happy and the love they share. ive had suspission's that she does in fact have feelings towards me and all the people who have seen us together has said that its obvious that she does. my good friend tells me she needs too decide who she wants too be with cuz she's just stringing me along. personally i would sacrifice my own feelings for her happiness. Lately i got the impression she started feeling guilty and she started distancing herself from me. i tried the same so that she didnt have too hurt or feel guilt. it didnt work it was like we both tried to distance away from the other but we still hung out and went out too lunch just the two of us. so two nights ago i told her the truth. i told her that i couldnt be her friend and pretty much everything. i said that i wanted her to know that she still has my phone number and she can call me or text me anytime she needs me for anything anytime of the day. i went thru the worst two days of my life. today we saw each other and it hurt not too say anything or look in her direction. she said hi too me and slid her hand on my shoulder, that was it. i didnt say anything back. tonight she called me and asked me why i couldnt be her friend, would we ever be friends again, and why i was doin all this. i told her that i couldnt it was all entirely my fault and that i fucked everything up. that hurt so much too say. ive been in countless fight's, stabbed, hit by a car, and broken a good number of bones. i wouldve rather taken all the pain from those injury's all at once then go thru that again. i dont want her too feel guilty or hurt. but i dont want too lose her. did i make a mistake? Is there any way i can fix this before it's too late? what do i do? im told she wont stop talkin about it too her friends. that she said that today she wanted too hug me and cry. how do stop her from hurting? please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010): Dude...you are my hero. You did the right thing. You didn't do anything wrong and you did something which a lot of guys wouldn't do...but no one said it would be easy. In fact nothing is easy. If you ever think for a moment that doing the wrong thing would have been better, I assure you that what ever you achieved would be lost.
Keep doing what you have been doing.
You have my hopes and courage with you.
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