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writes:My [ex] boyfriend and I met online in 2008 and lived on opposite sides of the world, but we somehow made it work. I figured out a way to go to his country for FREE for a semester. Things between us didn't work out once we were together in the flesh, however. I'll start with the positives....I have to admit, he's probably within the top-10 hottest guys I've ever seen in my life. No joke. What in the heck he liked about my fat*ss I've yet to understand, I admit. Anyway, he's a HUGE gentleman, always holding my hand as we walk, puling out my chair for me, kissing my hand, buying me little things as he went out, and so on. He's a complete sweetie, a hopeless romantic you could say. He was totally clean of stds and he did not lie whatsoever about who he was as I confirmed once we met in the flesh. I met his family too. But I've got one HUGE problem with him, and we've broken up because of it: he's...an online cheater. What I thought was weird was that I worked in an internet cafe while I was in his country in order go get a new experience and add some foreign volunteer work to my resume, and guys (and girls!) who told me they were taken would do this all the time! But I'm not taking "it's normal over here" as an excuse....I discovered that he was writing these silly love letters to women (2 that I know of) in other countries. They were copied and pasted letters (minus a few details) and they weren't ones he sent to me. Considering that our relationship started out online, I totally considered it to be cheating. He told me he would stop, but I don't believe him. I don't want to chance it; being in a relationship with someone on the other side of the world is already hard enough, and the odds are already stacked against us. But he was my first real relationship though I don't know whether or not I was in love. And he was the sweetest guy in the world with a hot body and great family. I can't help but think sometimes, "damn, will I do better than that?" Do you think I made the right decision by leaving him 6 weeks ago?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 May 2010):
 He was a cheater. Can you do better than that? Yes!
One thing if he thought it was ok to have online affairs... did you ever discuss what would be crossing the line or not? If he didn't think it was crossing the line (but Im with you I think it is), you could have given him a chance to prove that he values you more than his little online heart stealing games. Some people don't see any harm in online affairs. He could be one of those.
But if he said he didn't want to stop, of course you need to leave! You want a man dedicated to YOU!
As for his great body.. is the body really worth it when the guy is a cheat and is disrespectful to you? You can find LOTS of other guys with GREAT bodies. And what does he body mean anyways when your are in a long distance relationship and woukdn't get to enjoy it anyway.
He sounds like a player to me.
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