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writes:This sound stupid but you all have to help me out. My lecturer has being asking me out for one week. But later i decided to go,but only for him to tell me that he loves me and that i'll benefit lot of things if i accept. That particular day he had sex with me and this make me to look like a whore in is face,but he seem to love me more than before. But am not sure because he is married. So please am i wrong moving with my lecturer,and even having sex with him?. Tell me what to do for him to love and respect me even though i brought myself low by having sex with him at first. Please i need your answer. Reply to this Question
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reader, lovebird1  +, writes (21 June 2011):
If you ask me, it was more kind of his mistake, him abusing his power over you.
You shouldn't feel guilty or like a whore, but see this as an important lesson in your life and take better care of yourself in the future.
This man's no good for you, he doesn't love you. If he loved you, he wouldn't offer you benefits, and he wouldn't have you on the side while he's still married. I am sure that deep down you feel this kind of affair is wrong and you want to stop it. Do so. Don't let him talk you into having sex another time.
Don't wish for him to respect you. He should have done so in the first place but hasn't. Show some respect for yourself, love yourself and walk out on him.
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reader, Trinklett  +, writes (21 June 2011):
 As your lecturer, you should never have dated him talk less of sleeping with him and then being married makes it worse. I hope he doesn't continue this or decide to punish you with your grades. I'm sorry if I was blunt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2011): First of all he is your lecturer, and he could loose his job for sleeping with his students. So this is wrong.Second, he is married. Don't for a think for a second that he will ever leave his wife/family for a student. He is abusing his position as your lecturer and using you for sex.This is obvious as he said you will benefit lots if you accept! What is he going to give you a higher grade if you have sex with him on a regular basis?!To be honest he sounds like a creep and he definitely does NOT love you. In fact he should be reported in his job.To answer you question yes you are every bit as wrong as he is. You know he is married and you allow yourself to be used.To be blunt, this man has never respected you and never will, he has no respect for women in general as he is willing to cheat on his wife also. Forget about him, focus on your studies.Good Luck.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2011): He is married and already has committed to someone else. Any suggestion of intamacy would be wrong and dishonest of him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 June 2011):
 He is married
He is in a position of authority over you
My vote is YES you did wrong to have sex with him.
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