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writes: Ok, I was sleeping over at my boyfriends house, and everything was going great, until I found this little dusty note above his computer. It was from 5 years ago and he warned me not to look at it, but I did anyways...I got really upset about it, and all I wanted to do is burn it. Naturally he didnt want to for sentimental purposes, it continued to bother me. He made a promise a while ago that I meant the world to him, and that he would do anything for me, but he couldnt do this. So I broke it off, and within the next minute, he was at the sink with a lighter. Did I do the right thing, in making him do this? Reply to this Question
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reader, vina_101  +, writes (21 November 2006):
 I know it hurts but you have to face the reality that there were other lovers in his life. You have to accept it. I know you probably had lovers before him. He hasn't done anything wrong by keeping the love note. That note was part of his life. You are his present and maybe even his future so don't dwell on who he loved in the past.He must really love you to burn it for you. Remind yourself of that. Its not good that you're so possesive and jeleous. Whenever you feel insecure about him or when you feel jelousy remind yourself that he burned the letter for you because he loves you so much.He only did it for you.Lets look at it from his point of view. Lets say your ex boyfriend bought you a diamond necklace. Does that mean that you should throw away the necklace because you have a new man now? The necklace still has sentimental value and is it is still precious to you. Just because you keep it doesn't mean you love your new man any less does it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2006): You did the wrong thing but dont worry about it when you love someone we all react badly to things like this. i would go back to him and tell him you regret making him do that and it wont happen again, explain that you hate the thought of him ever loving anyone eles and i bet he will get over it quickly. Best of luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2006):
You did the wrong thing, and I think its a bad sign that you are this possessive. You broke it off because he had moldy note from an old love? What are you going to do to his highschool year book?
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (20 November 2006):
 I guess you did push it by pretty much forcing him to burn it. But its too late to undo it. Talk it out and make sure you get it out of both your systems cos this is the kinda stuff that could lead to resentment in the future. Expect it to take time for him to get over.Atleast he really meant he'd do anything for you! Remember that next time;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2006): No, it was a note from 5 years ago from someone who meant a lot to him obviously, don't you have memories before he came along?
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