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writes:I'm in love with my neighbours daughter. (The neighbour I used to have until I sold my house) The problem is there's an age gap. I'm 28 and she's 18. In the beginning, I admired her from a distance. Not wanting to scare her. I eventually got to know her through small talk and multiple lunch dates. I never thought I'd be interested in a woman that was significantly younger than me. But she's so mature, when we talk I feel like I'm taking to someone in my age group. She's really smart, makes me laugh, and she's gorgeous. We've been dating for a 6 months now. She tells me that she loves being with me, but isn't sure on how her parents would react to our relationship. I understand, her father is quite protective of her. I don't want to keep our relationship a secret anymore. I just want to her parents to know that I have the best intentions and I would never do anything to harm her. I make a good living, so supporting her is not an issue. I don't want them to think I'm a deadbeat creeping on their daughter. It's kinda corny, but she's the only girl I've ever felt this way about. I would hate for her parents to frown upon what we share, only to have a guy that's in her age group use her and dump her. I'm not saying all teen guys are like that, but most of them aren't looking for anything serious. I've lived it and I'm over that phase. She recently finished High School. She wants to move in with me, but it's going to raise the issue because her parents have no idea that we've been seeing each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): well she is of age ,she hasn't had her fun yet ,if u love her stick around and see what,s the out come ,age don't matter i'm 28 and by better half is 44 we have been to gether for 8yr .
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2011): I'd like to point out that in almost all countries you stop being a child by a maximum of 18 years old.
I would not refer to anyone 18 or over as child in any way. She is a WOMAN not a girl. She stopped being a girl the second the law said she was old enough to fend for herself.
Look, if you love each other give it a go, tell her parents and stick together no matter what their reactions are.
Will it last forever with you two, no one can say. It has worked before and it will work again. You don't know until you try.
Flynn 24
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reader, petina1  +, writes (6 January 2011):
 I've never a problem with age relationships really. But i had a neice who was 18, dated a man of 28 just like y ou. A lovely guy he was, ready for settling down etc. The only thing was that the 18 year old went to university and then her life began, partying, etc, all the things we like to do, get out of our system at that age. How can you be sure that she doesnt want to do this, you have had your outings, parties etc, you know what to expect, just be ready for that stage.
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reader, Lauren94 +, writes (6 January 2011):
i think you should sit down with your girlfriend and her parents and pretty much tell them everything you just said there, if you love each other, age shouldnt be a problem, think of jake gyllinhal and taylor swift! after all age is only a number! you should do stuff with the parents to make them trust you and know that you will never hurt there daughter, you have the best intentions, and love her with all your heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2011): poor her she is still a girl leave her alone
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