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writes:After my boyfriend and I broke up 2 weeks ago now because he has commitment issues. He was still emailing me, I finally ended it with him saying I think we shouldn't contact each other anymore. I told him that I need to heal and move on with my life and that one day(when I'm or if I'm ready), I will contact him again. This has been so hard for me and I hope I made the right decision. I need to know if I did make the right decision and how can I start moving on with my life without thinking about him? Also, could it be possible that after I cut all ties with him now, that maybe he will start to really think what he lost out on and maybe change his mind?
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reader, Sunset0000  +, writes (8 May 2007):
Hi
I think if you still have feelings for your ex then cutting off contact is probably the best thing for now. If you still have feelings for him and keep seeing/contacting him you won't be able to move on. I have a friend who is in the same situation, he wants to be friends with his ex but is finding it very difficult cos he still has feelings for her, but he wants to be able to move on and I have told him the same thing. You need to keep your distance until you feel you are ready to be friends. Some people never become friends with their exes again, I guess whatever will be will be. IF you have a strong enough friendship and the break up wasn't too messy then I think you will be able to remain friends in time. It sounds like if he's emailing you he might still be interested and not quite wanting to lose you completely, so yes, he may well be thinking of what he's lost. Just do what feels right for you. If you feel you need one last chat to talk everything through then that's ok, but if you just want to cut everything off for now, then that too is fine, it's whatever you feel comfortable with and the best thing for you.
Hope that helps a little :-)
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reader, DKR +, writes (8 May 2007):
 i truley believe you've done the right thing. In my experience at least it's the best thing to do. I know it worked for me. My ex of so many years ago blocked me out completely and after a week i left her only, havn't seen her since. I really do thank her for what she did for me. She's now married with a baby on the way, and i've found the lass of my dreams. Tough love works.
If the time comes that you want to get in touch with him, ask yourself why you're doing it. He may still hold a flame for you and by getting in touch again may seem like a green light for him (talking from personal experience again).
You've done the right thing, don't worry, go heal and be happy
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