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writes:Hey, well im a virgen but i do masterbate and when ever im almost done or am done i feel like i wanna cry and some times i do. I like get really sad out of no where is that normal? Il be thinking of my boyfreind and stuff then when im done doing it alot of sad thoughts hit me all of a sudden. Im worried that when i do have sex il just breakdown afterwerds like i do when im done masterbating. What can i do to stop this? Thanks so much for any input. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help guys. And no i dont really feel guilty about it ill be like thinking happy thought bout my boyfriend and when im done il get sad all of a sudden and start thinking about, i hope i never lose him and i dont know what i would do with out him. I dont know why that stuff pops in my head when im done.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (12 July 2010):
 On a TV show I once heard it referred to as crymaxing. The feelings of orgasm are so overwhelming it makes you cry. And Chigirl is right, masturbation and sex are not very similar other than they stimulate the same area. Even the feeling of arousal and orgasm feel totally different. You say you feel sad though, which is a little puzzling. Do you feel guilty?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 July 2010):
 It could be a phase. That the orgasm, or the feelings, are so intense that you get overwhelmed. Maybe in time you will learn how to control it, or that it will pass.
I don't think you should worry so much. Of course it is sad that you get sad, but I have a feeling your sadness has little to do with the masturbation itself, more that the masturbation is a trigger. Often after an orgasm I too feel like every feeling in me can just come out, my body is so relaxed, and that makes it easier for the feelings to come to the surface.
Before you have sex with your boyfriend you should talk to him about this, so that he understands. Until that time, don't worry about what your boyfriend will think or say. If he loves you he will be fine with it, and will be understanding. He might not understand exactly why you cry, but he will know it is not because of him, and so he can comfort you.
Besides, masturbation is nothing alike having sex with a person. The experience is totally different, and there is no guarantee that you will react the same way.
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