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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:If you have read my previous postings you will know that my husband of 32 years had a text affair with a colleague who works at different premises. It has definately stopped but he still has to see her at meetings and tonight is the AGM. I am sitting here in a cold sweat thinking of them 'together' and wondering if she is trying to attract him back as one text said she didn't mean to fall for him the way she had. We have both been ill over it all and I 100% believe he regrets it to the core and I know he adores me. In spite of this I keep wondering if he could be tempted again especially as she is 18 years younger than me (she is married). Please help me get through the evening!!!!!
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (18 March 2009):
 You need to trust him again and i know that is hard, what i used to do whenever my hubby was going anywhere i got him to text me in the breaks or when he went to the loo just to reassure me he was where he says he was, sometimes we have to divert our attentions to other things in order to take our mind off it and you can do that in many ways have a long bubble bath take the CD player in with you with your favourite tracks pour yourself a glass of wine and indulge, when thats over if you like reading curl up with a book or magazines anything to keep the focus on other things once you get used to doing this it is amazing how you warm to it, i am sure he would not dare have anything to do with her now he has learnt the hard way and he wont forget so dont you be worrying about that now take care.
Gina
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both for your words of support xx
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (18 March 2009):
 Only you can decide if you trust your husband enough not to be tempted. You cannot sit there and think will he wont he? You will drive your self mad and make yourself ill the more you think about it the more worked up about it you will get.
He stopped it before and you stayed together he would not be stupid enough to risk your marriage again.
You need to relax go run yourself a nice warm bath with bubbles and a nice glass of wine and just relax before you make yourself sick with stress, i know your worried but you both new that your husband would have to see this woman because of work but if you love and trust him enough to get through this then you can manage to get through this meeting and it will get easier with time.
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reader, damluvaam  + ♥, writes (18 March 2009):
 I would help you get through it if I were there - You're going to have to "give it to the Gods" as they say and not get yourself worked up. They work together. They are going to see one another - he has to behave - he knows that. All you can do now is trust that he will unless or until he proves otherwise again. That was your decision when you decided to believe he would stop the texting and the inappropriate behavior.
Please don't continue to ruin your day, your health fretting about what MIGHT happen.
My best
Denny
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