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writes:I have a husband,and want a child from him.He also likes a child from me.But he can't give birth.Can i get pregnant from other and tell him that it is yours?Is there a method of checking who the parents of the child are?What can i do-please help. Reply to this Question |
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reader, ambercich  +, writes (13 November 2007):
Why dont you discuss with him going to a sperm bank or asking a close friend to donate sperm?
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reader, DrPsych + ♥, writes (12 November 2007):
 As the others have said, DNA testing can determine paternity. You would also have to lie to your child as he grew up - I have a step-brother who didn't know my Dad wasn't his father as he had been raised thinking he was. Unfortunately when he was in his 20's he found out because his real father left him money in a will and my mother had to finally discuss it. Neither I nor they have seen him ever since as he took it very badly! I think my point is that these things have a habit of falling out of closets at unexpected moments. If you had an affair to make a baby then the real father may seek access to the child. At your age there are lots of infertility investigations that need to be done on you and your partner - IVF is available amongst other options to help couples affected by infertility issues. See a doctor and at least try to have a baby with your husband.
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reader, Fade878 +, writes (12 November 2007):
 I think she meant that he may not have swimmers that will impregnate her.If you both want children but he is unable-having some a child from someone else wont' solve this one.Has he had testing done to confirm he is unable to impregnate you? Have you had testing to confirm you may not be fertile?You both need to be working on this. There should be no sneaking behing anyone's back and lying and cheating going on. You love him that much then be honest.Why not getting his able swimmers to fertilize your egg and have it implanted in your womb. These ways cost money but financial difficulty should not influence you to be dishonest with your Husband.Seek a doctor's help to run tests FIRST and then make a decision together.Why isn't adoption an option?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): DON'T GET PREGNANT BY ANOTHER MAN FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!go to a doctor, together. and try and work the problem out.
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reader, love-him  +, writes (12 November 2007):
 men cannot give birth.. DNA tests will prove he isnt the father, has the man gone through tests to prove he cannot have children? if you and you partner havve children and you want to give birth yourself, then there are things where they place the egg and sperm together and inside you therefore you get pregnant. I strongly suggest you thionk about this more and talk to a professional.
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reader, love-him +, writes (12 November 2007):
men cannot give birth.. DNA tests will prove he isnt the father, has the man gone through tests to prove he cannot have children? if you and you partner havve children and you want to give birth yourself, then there are things where they place the egg and sperm together and inside you therefore you get pregnant. I strongly suggest you thionk about this more and talk to a professional.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): If you're really 26-29 years old, and don't know the answers to this question, you don't need to be bringing a child into the world. Also, you say your husband can't give birth. You are aware that only women can give birth, not men, right?? Yes there is a method of checking who the parents are, it is called a DNA test and it is 100% accurate, so I would not suggest trying to pass a baby off as someone else's.
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reader, TELLULAH + ♥, writes (12 November 2007):
 Hi,
Yes as Seratuki has said, your husband cant give birth and they would be able to tell if he is not the father. Seriously though, how do you know he cannot have children, and how do you know that he is the one with the problem?. Have you had the test's done, to see if there is a medical problem with either of you. It could be something quite simple that can be fixed.
There are other options if you cant have a baby together though. I would find the facts out first before I do anything hasty.
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reader, Seratuki +, writes (12 November 2007):
 Err...well I would hope he can't give birth.....lol
okay sorry, couldn't resist that one...anyways. It's unfair to the biological father, your husband and the child if you did this..it's selfish and eventually all lies come out. What if the child had some medical problem and needed an organ or something? are you willing to risk all the lies and live your life telling this one HUGE lie to the people you're supposed to love?
If your husband cannot have children there are sperm banks, adoption, or at the very least find a friend willing to do this, but be HONEST about it!!!!
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reader, mallorie410 +, writes (12 November 2007):
umm yes! Its called a DNA test. If you dont even know that i wouldnt suggest having a child.
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