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writes:dear cupid,i am really confused about this guy that i think im really starting to like!! it has been a while since i met someone that im slightly interested in since my last break up. and finally im starting to like someone but i am really confused about what exactly he wants from me or how he feels...so i met this guy a few months ago and we talked all night and clicked. He asked me for my # and if i would like to go out with him sometime. He didnt text me for a whole month... which was kind of strange. But when he finally did we started talking few times a week and had a good and fun connection. we would text for hrs (i know its weird i never had just a texting relationship) but anyway this went on for a couple months (and he did mention he got out of long term relationship not that long ago... i dont think he is still in a relationship because he does seem like a good honest guy).anyway we hung out the other day out with friends and i really liked him, maybe i didnt really show it that much but it was the first time i saw him again and i wanted to keep it friendly. he seemed like he likes me and when i was leaving we talked for a while alone and i had a feeling he wanted to kiss me but instead he gave me a kiss on the forehead before he left. he even texted me the same night to wish me a goodnight and said he had a great time..and the next evening he texted to see what i was doing...but then last night i wrote to him because i figured it would show interest if i wrote him too and he never wrote back. he is kind of standoffish in a way but seems like he likes me i just was wondering why he wouldnt write back or why he would be stand off ish a little bit..?? why did it take him so long to text me since he got my # and why it took so long for us to hang out after we have been texting for so long? what does he really want from me?!i know im kind of over analyzing things, but like i said i havent met anyone i liked in such a long time and i was really excited about him, but now i dont know what to think!!!! please tell me your opnions! i really dont want to waste my time if this sounds like i'll just end up dissapointed in the end...thank you:)
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reader, devastated2008  +, writes (9 November 2009):
 You said he just came out of a long distance relationship, he may be just uncertain and a little scared of jumping into another relationship. Or he may still have feelings invested in his prior partner.If there was any betrayal in either of your prior relationships he may just be scared of either of you getting hurt.
Like Lexi said there really isnt enough information to speculate on. I agree with Lexi's advice... keep playing it cool but don't settle on him yet. Keep having fun and going out with your friends, be open to possibilities.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): original poster***thanks for your response. yes im very confused with this guy. he did ask me on a proper date, when he texted me that week we were supossed to go out. i was out so i told him to stop by for a drink and he did. that was the first time we hung out. ahh i dont know about this guy, there is just something so mysterious about him. he does seem nice and we have the funniest connection, same sense of humor, ect. maybe i should have kept it strictly a texting relationship and never met up to save myself even more confusion ;) do you think i should just ignore him for a while?
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (9 November 2009):
 I don't think that any of us here can tell you what he's thinking exactly.
I'd say that as a general rule, if a guy was really interested, he wouldn't wait so long to contact you after getting your number, he wouldn't just text you, and he would want to go on a proper date, not just hang out with friends.
But I don't know him and his situation so it's not good for me to just assume things.
What I think you can do is relax a little and take things as they come. I know it's hard to do that.
One thing that sticks out to me is that you say he asked for your # and then if you would like to go out sometime...why didn't you set something up right then and there? What did you say when he asked you to go out with him?
It's hard to tell you what you could do without knowing him but generally, if guys are interested they will make more effort than this guy is doing. He could be somewhat interested but not interested enought to pursue things.
I think that if he's interested enough he'll make the effort. The way he's behaving now tells me that he's either got other women he's chasing, he's not that sure about you for whatever reason or he's seeing someone else but wants to make sure you're waiting in the wings for him.
If I was you I wouldn't completely give up on him but I would go out and enjoy myself and not think about him so much. Don't let other opportunities pass you by while this guy makes his mind up. I'm sure you're a great girl and if he can't see that and 'snatch' you up, then it's his loss.
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