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writes:I'm currently in a confusing situation.I like a girl. She's wonderful: so many levels in one person is hard not to like. Sensitive, strong-willed, smart, happy, and at times all-out hyper, to name but a few.I've asked her out. Twice. On the first occasion, she had recently left a long-relationship, and still needed time. I left her to it.2 weeks after that, we were standing at a bus-stop with a friend, who was argueing with her. He wanted her to tell me something, she didnt. In the end, he just gave up, turned to me, quietly eating chips between them both, and said with a perfectly straight face: "****, ***** likes you."Dead silence. For one full minute.Then she turned to him, and said: "thanks a lot: you have no idea how arkward you just made this situation" and I thumped him on the shoulder. He went home, laughing his head off.Silence again, for another full minute.Then I plucked up my courage, and said: "was he being serious?" Pause. "Yes he was." Pause. "Oh."Then the bus arrived, we got on, talking normally again. When we got off again, we walked a short ways, then it was mi time to turn down the road home. We hugged goodbye, it lasted a little longer than usual, and we went our seperate ways.That evening, over msn, I asked her out again.She said she wanted to wait until things had settled down a bit, and I could see her point: 4 people in our group had started dating each other, 2 had split up, and **** was probably at home, grinning so hard his face was about to explode.And now I'm scared. Scared that I'll lose the first person I really (REALLY) like who likes me in return because I waited too long. I think she might be reluctant because her recent ex is one of my best friends, and she doesnt want to hurt him in anyway, and I'm kinda nervous because suddenly I'm dating my best friend's ex. It's all confusing, and I'm not certain what I'm asking for in this small text box. Reassurance? General advice? Something along those lines, I guess.But I really really like this girl: I dream of her, yet I respect her to much to have dreamed of sleeping with her. I smile whenever I see her, and want to hug her everytime I get too close. I'm pretty certain she was being sincre when she admitted to liking me, but I'm not sure if she still does or not.Anyone got ANYTHING to say on this? I dont care what it is: my head needs re-aligning...
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reader, katatonik  +, writes (7 December 2008):
 Sounds like she would be a very lucky girl to have you. It sounds as if she genuinely likes you but is a little overwhelmed by things at the moment. You note your own reservations about dating your friend's ex; chances are she feels the same way. How mature she expects your friend to be about the situation is probably a factor in this. In the meantime, she's already come out and said herself that she does like you; her feelings aren't going to disappear in the next week or so. Give her a little time to think things over and then broach the subject again. Good luck =]
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