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writes:Hi, well im 16, and i have been in love with this guy for two years. only problem is, he lives about 4 hours away and lives where i go on holiday, (i go there about 6 times a year so i see him alot)everytime i go down, it's like we're together. the last time i went down there, we kissed loads, and i ended up loosing my virginity to him. (he is 19) it didn't last long, (bout 15 mins) and i asked him the next day if he came, and he said 'nah' i was realy confused so i asked him and said does that mean it wasn't good? And he said sed, 'nah it was really great, but i was just givin u a tester. hope it didn't hurt too much'. I reli dont' understand why he didn't come, i was on the pill and he was using a condom so i wernt gna get pregnant, do yu think it could have been because he knew it was my first time and he was just being careful? Im so confused. Now i've gone home, and im missing him loads, and he knows how much i love him, he says he loves me too, but he don't reli want a relationship cause of the distance. i can understand this, it would be too difficult. But i cant stp loving him. By the way, it was me that suggested sex, he wasnt going to say anythin unless i wanted too. What should i do? and also, i asked him if he thought he'd have a girlfriend when im down next and he saud 'nah prob not'. Probably? i just dont know what to think :\
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (18 May 2010):
 A guy who is experienced in sex like him is probably just being careful with you. When a girl looses her virginity it can be somewhat uncomfortable for her the first time. Sometimes it's even painful. Contrary to popular believe, this is not a huge turn on for guys. It just sounds like he was going slow and being careful, making sure you weren't in pain. Once you get a little more experience and used to sex, then I'm sure he'll be ejaculating. I wouldn't take him not cumming as a bad thing or him not enjoying sex with you.
As far as his "probably" remark? It's hard to say. He could just have been sarcastic in his remark. Or, you two may need to talk about your relationship. The fact is, he only sees you 6 times a year, that's not exactly a boyfriend/girlfriend type relationship. Have you told him you want to be his girlfriend? Have you told him you don't want to see other people? Just be honest with him.
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