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*igMac92
writes:Okay so the first time i ever dated/kissed/had sex someone happen over the summer, it was a two week thing before we both went off to college. Well it hit me pretty hard and she moved on pretty easily. So i was looking for somewhat of a rebound girl and i found one. This girl i work with, she is like 7 years older then me, she was hitting on me, made comments about haveing one night stands with friends so i thought it was perfect , i mean she wasnt the best looking but she seemed like someone i wouldnt have to work for. We hung out, grabbed a hotel room, got drunk, and had sex. Well the next morning we try to leave the hotel, each in our own car, when i find out she got a breathalizer attach to her car from a dui and she cant turn it on because she was still hungover. So for the whole day i was stuck with. So after that we had sex like two more time but i dont hang out with outside of work unless were about to have sex. Well now she thinks that were "together". Telling the whole store i work in about us, telling me she not going to mess around with anyone else,gets mad if i dont pay alot of attention to her when were at work. Ive told her im not looking for something serious and that im going back to college in like 2 weeks. Well the same night i told her that she decided to make it "facebook offical", so after i told her again she took that down. So my question is how do i get this chick off my back without making it weird going to work again.i mean i dont want to just go back to school and just stop talking to her but if it comes to it i just might.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (13 January 2012):
 This is why you NEVER ever date or hook up with someone from work. You're stuck facing them on a day to day basis and they have a tendency of airing out your dirty laundry to all the office gossip queens.
Perhaps you weren't clear of your intentions in the first place while courting into bed. She obviously thought it was more than just sex. Most of the time you need to be clear from the start as to what this actually is, a one night stand. Sadly, some girls are that dingy.
Are you still having sexual relations with her? I hope not. If so you need to cut it off, it will only make her latch onto you even more.
I would do as Ciar said and tell her that you two have nothing and it was nothing but a one night stand. If she still continues to act like a stage 5 clinger then cease all contact with her at work, outside of work, and when you leave for school. This is girl is a booty call you DO NOT want.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (13 January 2012):
 Why do you want to keep talking to her? After all this you still consider her a viable sexual outlet? Do you think she is stable enough to be 'friends only'?
Either she is the most reckless and irresponsible person (not hard to believe) or she planned to use the ignition disabling device in her car as a ploy to keep you there from the start.
Either way you've already made it clear, from what you told us anyway, that you are not interested in a relationship with her, yet still she persists. You're going to have to be brutally honest and if she conintues to give you a hard time, consider changing jobs.
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reader, angelalb +, writes (13 January 2012):
She is seven years older than you she should know better. You should have told her from the start that it was just a one time thing. Sounds like she is immature and can't handle rejection. You should stop talking to her. Eventually she will forget about you and move on. Daniele
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