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female
age
41-50,
*nm1979
writes:okay 3 years ago my brother in law came to live with my husband and I, well 5 months into him living with us, my bil and I starting having feeling (which we addressed) and then a sexual relationship. my husband at the time was in jail for fdomestic violence and had a major drug problem and the only person I really could talk to was my bil. so our affair lasted 3 months then ended..Well I moved out and have yet to tell my husband which now we have been seperated for almost a year, but I ran into my bil a few nights ago and told him how much he hurted me and how I still loved him, I did get a response out of him how sorry he was never ment to hurt me blah blah..well we hung out that night and after wards he came back to my house with a friend of mine we were just hanging out everything was fine till my friend left, then he pulled me over and started kissing me and all the feelings came back, but now he has a girl friend I am lost I dont know what to do! please dont put me down or what I have done..just need some advice..
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (1 August 2011):
 You just have to let time take its course and eventually you won't be thinking about him at all. Get yourself in some hobbies or activities you like to keep your mind off him. If that doesn't help you, then just remember why he's no good for you in the first place. But time will help you get over him. Just give yourself time and hopefully you'll be over him sooner than later.
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reader, enm1979 +, writes (31 July 2011):
enm1979 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay I get what your saying leave him alone...Vsaddict....but how do I just forget all the feelings I have for him? they have been there for 3 plus years and wont just go away! Trust me I have tried....
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (31 July 2011):
You know what you should do. End the affair with your brother in law. He's not a person worth being with if he's going to do this to you and his brother. He doesn't care about you or have enough respect for you to walk away. So you walk away instead and work on your marriage with your husband. And if you don't want to work out things with your husband, then just stay away from guys like this because you will always get hurt.
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