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writes:So its been a few days since my break of boyfriend of 4 years.. I feel sh*t and awful and can't stop crying..I am gutted it has actually come to this. I loved him so much and I truely thought he felt the same. But he is being so cold to me. It looks like he really wants out of the relationship.. He is collecting his stuff at the weekend when I am away in London on a hen weekend. Will this pain ever end.. I just can't cope with all the crying...Any advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, chazx  +, writes (8 April 2009):
 Yes sweetie the pain will end give it time.
Also if he is being so nasty forget about him (i know its easier said then done.
Try not to cry to much and if you do cry try to drink loads of fluids to keep you hydrated, this phase will go soon.
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reader, Rajesh Nair  +, writes (8 April 2009):
 "But he is being so cold to me. It looks like he really wants out of the relationship." Don't just give up. You've been together for 4 years, and you can very well ask him the reasons for his cold behavior. Tell him you love him a lot and that you don't want things to end this way.The reason I am telling you to do this, is because you still don't know for sure, as to why he is behaving in such a manner. It would be really difficult to move on, without knowing why things didn't work out between you and him.Remember dear, it's much easier to cry, than to mend a broken relationship. But when you value something so much, its better not to let go. Make things work. Talk to him. Try working out a solution together.But if this doesn't work out still, move on. Engage yourself in activities which don't let you think about the past. Do something fun, something which makes you happy. Try something new. Why not join a dance class or any other hobby class for that matter, where you get to know new people or learn new skills? Life is what you make it to be. It's completely your choice to be happy or sad at a particular moment. Love yourself a bit more. Remember, it's his loss too, if he looses you. Cheers!!! :)
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reader, 48years  +, writes (8 April 2009):
 Imagine your life a year from now: You'll be sitting at dinner with a new friend and "he" will walk in with a date. You feel a little awkward, but forget about him immediately because the man you're now with is listening to you and you alone. He cares about your happiness and has no interest in leading you on.
You won't find your new friend if you are still hung up on the old one.
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reader, loner  +, writes (8 April 2009):
 I'm going to have to say i truly know how you feel.... Its not the best feeling in the world.. I cried for a whole month! I could not eat, sleep or even talk... I know it's not nice and you just wish you can go on with your life yet it seems so hard.... If you have someone else that is really close to you, ask them if you can spend more time with them. Keep your mind busy with other things, dont let your mind run into memory lane... Your just going to have to be strong and try forget about it all, yes its not easy but once you have done it its all over and forgotten. You are in my thoughts! Good luck..
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