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writes:My ex-girlfriend of over a year cheated on me and its been 2 months and I still think about her everyday. How do I get her out of my mind and move on? This is seriously dogging me and it sucks that she cheated on me yet I still have feelings for her. I'm not the type of guy that 'hooks up' with random girls so part of me feels that maybe my attraction to her is solely due to me being a horny college student.This was my first real relationship and this garbage happens. I still bump into her a couple times a week, which sucks, but i usually try to ignore her because she lied to me about this for months. I wish I had never met her because she ruined my social life and now im stuck alone, thinking about her.Help me, please
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reader, Curles  +, writes (15 November 2008):
 what i do hate to hear is: she cheated and i still love her: this is just stupidity. if u don't see her/ him cheating, fine. but if u see = quit, forget, move on.
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reader, SinVA +, writes (14 November 2008):
SinVA is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, I know there are tons of other girls out there, it just sucks when the one you had feelings for pulls somthing like this. I'm glad to hear that you were able to find somone better, and I relaly hope that happens for me.I did let her know what she did hurt me, and it kinda helped, and now I guess the focus is moving on. That is a lot easier said than done. Hooking up with one of her friends would be awesome but she has no female friends, so that's out of the picture. And going gay for spite isn't in my blood haha. I really do think most of my attraction to her at this point is sexually. Emotionally i'm cold to her, or i put on a good front, but one problem is she still looks damn good so i need to find somone else and fast. This sucks
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): I have been cheated on in a situation just like yours. It hurts. Make sure that you don't go with her again because she'll more then likely do it again. I was dumb enough to keep my girl and well, she cheated again. It took me like 3 months to get over it. It just takes some time. Just remember you can do better and that she don't deserve you. I've been over her for over a year now but I tell you what, I'm so happy now that she cheated on me and I found out because now I have the best girl a guy could ask for and I love her so much. In all bad things comes great things. I have faith that you will get over this. Good luck to you.Maddogg
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reader, BadAsh6705 +, writes (11 November 2008):
 It is understandable that you feel hurt and that you still have feelings for her, but this was only the first of many relationships that you may have in the future. Just remember that there are many, many, MANY other girls out there that will treat you much better than she did!
I do think that since you still see her regularly, you should try to talk to her and be civil. I'm not saying that you should try to be friends with her, but if you can still get her to talk try to get a chance to tell her how you feel. It will help you a lot to get closure on this if you get to tell her that it really hurt you, but you want to move on and you don't want things to be weird between you.
If you feel that is not an option, I know it's not the typical advice someone would give, but screw it she cheated on you!!! HOOK UP WITH ONE OF HER FRIENDS. Even if you don't tell her, it will make you feel better. Ha!
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