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41-50,
anonymous
writes:i have been dating a man for about 2-3months now and i cant seem to orgasm vagina or clitoris when we have sex. i am quite a shy person and i tend to become self concious when he is looking at me when he is trying to make me cum. i know it sounds wierd. but if he looking at me when he is trying to make me come i cannot achieve orgasm. I have had this problem in past relationships but eveutnually been able to achieve orgasm by making sure they cannot look at me while i am coming which sounds strange but there are certain positions where they would not be able to see my reaction when it happens. I am not sure if this is normal?? any advice grateful
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reader, UnfinishedSymphony  +, writes (3 February 2009):
 its normal.
everyone is different.
its all about being comfortable with yourself. i know this sounds silly...but...
get a mirror, strip, masturbate and really make yourself feel sexy.
next time you come to have sex, try and picture yourself as the dominatrix and he is merely a peasant. overcome him, be cheeky, be in charge.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (2 February 2009):
 A bit of Dutch courage may help here, have a drink to calm the nerves, I'm not saying get out of your mind but it is clinically proven that a glass of wine or similar can help calm nerves. If you can orgasm in "different positions" try them for a while and see how it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): Not sure about self concious but men love to see the expression on a womans face when they orgasm. You should just go with the flow (no pun intended).
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