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*olar
writes:So here we go... last year an old flame comes back in to my life. We talk via email for almost a year.He is deployed in Kuwait and about to get divorce he said. "I never forget about you I have being looking for you for years". Im also married with a marriage no working any more. So Im thingking love is knocking on my door again. We exchanged emails for over a year he asked me to "wait for him" and promised he was going to be back in 2010. He was done in kuwait and came to see me. after he saw me he said "was up to me" and continue to said "he still love me". But them he went back to europe and did not come back or live up to his promises. I asked questions and he told me to wait, to wait "be patience, we wll be together". months went by, at the end I had to realize by myself on tears, that the reality was that he was over there with his wife and kids. I went balistic on him via email,asked questions demanded answers, but he just answer what he wanted and just closed the door on me. I cant believe he pull this one on me. I really had feelings for this guy. Now Im heart broken. Im triying so hard to move on, but I feel my heart is broken in pieces. How can he do this. We had a past together. He came back ask for a second chance I did give a second chance and he does this?I need to forget about this Army guy! I know he did not deserve my feelings, but is so hard to let go???Someone help me please !!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2010): I am not saying you dont have geniuine feelings for him but if you arre that unhappy maybe you should leave your husband, think of all the lives that will be hurt by your actions.... i suggest you move on from this guy hes not worth it and you can do better.
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reader, Solar +, writes (22 December 2010):
Solar is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk Frogs84 let me just share some of the 400 emails i received for the past year...
He wrote:
"wow; its been six months since I found you. amazing. 93 days left in the combat zone and I cant wait. I dream about seeing you again in person. I cant wait for that day to happen.
miss you"
"Ok but never get out of my life again ok. Wherever you go and if we are
far apart, you need to let me know where you are at. I hit my twenty
years next year and I am out for good in 2014 but I will be back in the
states in late 2010. You have to wait for me ---.
You will get to know me and trust me. I will assure you of that"
He also wrote:
"I got what I deserve means because I didn't act when I should of. If I
would have acted, we would have been together and have our own children.
You won because you moved on and your feelings changed. You said you
went through heartache. But now that I found you and see the end result
and my feelings haven't change, now I am the one that will suffer ----- What I went through was being in War. And still in War. War changes
you and makes me see things so differently. You can't understand but I
know that if given the opportunity to live my life with you; I would
take that chance. -------".
I have other 400 emails with the same content. I can publish a "Love War novel" I dont care to make this public, any one can read it.
What a shame, some people who just give love a bad name!!!
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reader, Solar +, writes (22 December 2010):
Solar is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou see Frogs84 is hard to look back and see the mess I got myself into.. he presented himself as a man with a marriage that was done. He made promises and he asked me to wait for him. told me he was coming back and was going to place his family back in town and he was going on his own way. I did not look for him, he found me after so many years. And that is why it hurt so much he was my friend in the past, he apologized for the past and said "if God will me give a second chance with you, I will not let it go" how can you not believe when you know this is the men that you loved and will always love. My heart is broken in pieces. I just wait and wait until until I can see how do i move on... alone of course because my marriage have being done for a while.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): Its not a question of him being an Army guy, my guy is in the army and i trust him 100% the fact of the matter is that hes married and has kids and has been with you!!! and your married too.
I dont feel sorry for you getting played because your not much better than him. If your so unhappy in your relationship why dont you leave or are you only staying around so that you wont be lonely? you dont want your husband but you dont want anyone else to have him, a bit selfish dont you think.
Further more you have been fraternizing with a married man for all you know his wife and kids are really happy and think hes great and you could have torn that family apart.
He should be ashamed of himself because if hes not happy with her he should leave her so that she can get on with her life and if he loved you like he said he does he would be with you not her so fact of the matter is that you got played by a low life army guy.. People wouldnt cheat if there werent people so willing to cheat with. I feel sorry for both of your parners because they have no idea the kind of people that they are living with
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reader, Solar +, writes (22 December 2010):
Solar is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Bernard!!! You are rigth. I was very clear from the begining and told him i was not going to be the other woman. Is so sad... I have a great job, Im independent. I tough he will appreciate that. I was fine minding my own business until he found me and started all this mess. He played games and used me, and thats hard to accept, but is ok . LIke to said f.him... Life goes on... he did me a favor!
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