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writes:i really need some advice am i kidding my self in thinking that if my ex takes me back after cheating on him twice things will work and and we will both be happy with each other please help anyone out there
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reader, nologo  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 Honestly I can't tell: this depends on your ex.Don't know his attitude to cheating in general.Thinking about this: "we will both be happy with each other".What is Happiness in your understanding? Is it state of mind?If answer is "no", why you say "kidding my self in thinking".
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reader, Dick Diva  +, writes (16 July 2007):
Short answer: Yes - of course
but-
In my humble opinion there are a whole lot of questions that need to be answered before your relationship together can be put into perspective and continued with confidence.
Your underling fear in this question seems to be: Is he going to cheat on me? and; will he forgive me enough to love me fully? But my question is do you know why you cheated in the first place? (twice I might add).
The reasons are numerous but it could be self esteem - falling for the hot guy that tells you your hot. If that's the case, you need to work on yourself before entering any relationship. A common reason for cheating is that many like multiple ongoing sexual relationships. If that's the case, you two need to talk about the dynamic of your future together.
Which leads me to ask: why is he coming back? Does he have self esteem issues believing he's not worthy of a relationship without infidelity of his partner? Or perhaps he is so self confident and loves you so much that he has come to terms with some facts. The fact that in order to love you he is willing to endure you having an honest fling once in a while because he knows that makes you happy - while remaining faithful himself. That it doesn't have to end your life together as long as the two of you work it out. Honest being the key word here.
I hope you find that peace.
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reader, kristinakutie  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 well, i cant really speak for what you mite or mite not do, but my guess that if he keeps taking you back, he must really love you.. and you dont find alott of men that do that.. so if you keep cheating on him, you mite just end up losing him and its probably guna be 1 of those things in your life that you would regret forever.. and maybe you are cheating because you are insecure.. but you need to stop because you are probably hurting him badly.. and i'm quite certain that isnt your intention, but you should really think about what you do before you do it.. because all of our actions have consequences like it or not.. but my guess that it'll work, but only if you put all your efforts into it.. and he does too.. show him that you really do care about your relationship and that you truely do love him.. show him that you mean it this time.. just put everything you've got into it and it should work.. and if it doesnt, then maybe it just wasnt meant to be... i hope that helped you.. good luck =] ~kristina
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