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writes:I have been getting close to a guy I met a few months ago, we are getting to know each other at the mo so it hasn't developed into anything serious yet, but I can feel myself really falling for him the problem is or what I can't help feeling could be a problem is that I am a 24 year old student who still lives at home because financially I can't afford to move yet (saving like mad) and he is a 30 year old who went to Cambridge University and comes from a middle class background. My worry probably says more about me than him but I am worried that we come from two different worlds and I feel like he may get bored with me. Can the age gap and class diversity work?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (25 July 2012):
 Men are usually less concerned than women about class differences. Traditional parenting means that we grow used to the idea that it is us who have to provide, and therefore it doesn't matter much if the girl has or doesn't have money. It could matter if he were the Prince Heir and she were the maid of the hotel she stayed in, but then most likely it would be his family, not himself, who would object. Think Cinderella.
And the age is right.
I think you are the only party concerned.
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (24 July 2012):
The age gap is fine for your ages. It will only shrink as you age.
Class diversity, as you call it, is only as much of a problem as you want to make of it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 July 2012):
 Well the age gap is not that big.. 6 years... less than half of my gap to be honest...
As for the class diversity... what are you seeing...
I don't see issues with class... the middle class is huge... there's upper middle class, lower middle class and middle middle class...
I mean if you were talking a wealthy trust fund man vs the poor working girl from the other side of the tracks sort of thing I might worry.
I think you are looking for reasons to be concerned.
Just go with the flow and see what happens.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (24 July 2012):
 Of course it can, if you both want it. Why are you so self-conscious of being a 24-year-old student and still living at home? A lot of people live at home while in college. I would say just take it slowly and don't worry about age or money differences. Those things will not matter if you really care about each other and want things to work.
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