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writes:I am separated from my wife of 6 years. We have no children togeather but she has 2 boys from a previous marriage.I love her with all my heart and undoubtly she dont feel the same. The only thing that we have ever had a disagreement over was the boys. Her youngest son is 16 and is on drugs. He has had his drivers license for about 6 months and has already totaled 2 cars. I tried my best to let her know what was going on but she would not believe me and thought i was being mean to her boys. But since we have been separated she has found out that what i had been trying to tell her all this time was true. But even still she has filed for divorce and we go to court in a couple of weeks. We have bought several different rental properties since we got married and she wants them all. I dont think this is fair and when i try to explain this to her she says its because i dont love her and i am still being mean to her boys. But this in not true. I love this woman with all my heart and would give anything i have just to have her back with me. I miss her so much. I am now living alone and its just hard to deal with. Sometimes the thought of suicide even crosses my mind. But thankfully i believe in god and know that is a unforgivable sin. But still it is so hard to deal with. I cant believe the person she has turned out to be. I thought i knew this person but turns out i didnt know her at all. The boys real father has never been active in their lives. So when i came along i tried to be the best father to them that i could be..Can someone please tell me where i went wrong and what if anything can i do to make my wife see that i love her dearly and would do anything for here....Pleae i need help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): From a lady point of view, when it comes to divorce or separation, they always consider security. They always ask for as many properties as they can to secure the rest of their life. I can understand it to an extent. Because as women age, it might be getting more difficult for them to support themselves financially than men. It does sound a bit unfair for men. Whose fault is that? Society's fault, I guess. But never never give up your life. It is not worth to giving up your life for an ex. Whatever happened yesterday is already in history. Tomorrow is a new start of your life! You will find a nice lady who can spend the rest of your life with. ps. I support q1605's attitude.
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reader, sarcy24  +, writes (4 July 2008):
 Ok, I am also going through this with my husband divorcing me against my will and we also have a bit of property. This is very very hard but there is nothing you can do anymore apart from sit back and go with the process. I too am furious about the money as I bought most of the things and he will get half but that is the way it is. This woman is not worth your love and affection. She has now decided she wants most of the money well he will get some of it but she won't get all of it as you will need a reasonable place to live for yourself. Although you want her back do not be out manouvered by this woman and get the best lawyer you can afford to fight for the financials. She will be playing on the fact you would do anything to get her back and if I were you I would stop this display of undying love immediately. Easier said than done I do know! She is playing on your feelings for her and if you stop displaying them and show no interest she won't like it. At the moment she is not coming back so go down the lawyer route and fight for your share.
When she is on her own with the boys for much longer she will soon realise what you said is true and she won't find it easy. Try your best to think about other things and keep occupied so you don't wander back endlessly to this subject.
My husband left 18 months ago and I also felt suicidal. I used to dream of going down the motorway and pulling the car into the crash barrier ending it all so quickly or even worse hurting myself so he was forced into coming back to care for me and our son. This is ridiculous! You cannot let anyone have that much hold over you. I promise you that things will get better with time. Even now I have good and very bad days but no one is worth finishing yourself off for. I also knew my husband would have got pleasure from me doing it thinking he meant so much to me that I couldn't live without him. You are so much stronger than that and you will get through it. Treat yourself to a few things you like , spoil yourself a bit and accept what is going to happen is going to happen even though you don't like it but try not to dwell on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): My dear Sir, let me first say, that according to the Holy Bible, that the only unforgivible sin, in not beleving in Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior. And second, your soon to be ex-wife is trying to take you for all that you have. She needs to adress her son's problem and get help, not blame it on you. You seem limke a good man...Keep it thaat way, and fight for what is yours. Just cling to John 3:16 "Come unto me, alll who are heavy and burdneded, and I will give you rest." God will NOT fail you. All My prayers are with you. Please message me if you need anything!!!~
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