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Can only orgasm during masterbation

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Question - (12 February 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 24 February 2008)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I am 25 and can only orgasm from masturbation. I enjoy sex with my boyfriend but it's frusturating and we change positions and try new things?! help....

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008):

I find that while having intercourse it often helps to touch my clitorius any orgasm that way.

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (12 February 2008):

DoubleM agony auntDear girl, female orgasms are one of the great mysteries on this planet to most men, who rarely think much about it and view take sex as something to mainly please themselves. When they "get off" they just figure that you got your jollies as well, and that's good enough for them.

Sorry to dis my fellow man, but few know much of anything about this. Some ladies made me learn much more about it many years ago, and it really centers on three things (although I have sometimes said two).

Foreplay, masturbation and cunnilingus.

Female masturbation is necessary in order for a woman to explore the many pleasure areas of her anatomy that will trip the magic switch for her. Women are different yet usually fairly similar. There are many erogenous zones (neck, breasts, ears, toes, thighs, stomach, lips and on and on). Then ultimately, concentration goes to the vulva, a very complex and multi-purpose region on a woman that also is an incredible pleasure center.

Men do not even have half the potential for intensive pleasure as a woman.

Masturbation, even if helped by a knowing man, helps you explore and discover the very special areas and spots down there that will lead you eventually to explosive orgasms.

Geez, I'm starting another book and it's getting late. But this Web site has many sections dealing with that topic including my own writings, and of course, there are some excellent books.

Anyway, let's touch on foreplay. Few men really spend very much time here except maybe the first time they seduce you, then once they score, they rarely feel it is needed anymore. WRONG!

Foreplay (kissing, licking, snuggling, sweet nothings, hugging, smooching, feeling, rubbing, etc) should be part of lovemaking every time. This is what heats up all the physical and emotional engines that will take a lady to paradise if done right. The topic could be explored for pages.

Finally, cunnilingus (oral stimulation to female genitalia and more). Your man, especially if in his 20s, will not likely learn all he should know until he is nearly my age (60), and then it's too late because nobody wants us. But the art of stimulating a woman orally is the next to last door leading to that wonderful paradise of female orgasms.

My best instructions on this Web site may be found using the site's search engine at the top of this page. Jusy copy the word and enter. I think it is still the first answer listed there.

Didapoo's suggestion for woman-on-top is also good, but should follow oral stimulation for best results, and Laura 1318 is on track regarding oral and manual stimulation as well.

Best wishes. You will arrive in that paradise eventually.


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A male reader, pyan Australia +, writes (12 February 2008):


over the years i have found very few women orgasm during the sex part. they need to be very hornie.

what we found best was forplay. this alow you to orgasm several times then fishish off with sex. my wife love it that way and it took us years to find out

meassage if you want more info

good luke

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (12 February 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntMost women orgasm only through the stimulations of the clitoris orally or manually by hand. Show him how you can orgasm.

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A female reader, didapoo United States +, writes (12 February 2008):

didapoo agony auntIf you have never had an orgasm, get on top and move around a little until it fells really good. Try it a few different ways, but im sure if you get on top you will eventually orgasm.

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