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writes:My Spanish teacher this year is like a mother to me. I love her like a second mom. Would it be weird if I told her that when I graduate next year? Do you think it would "creep her out"? Because I really want her to know how much of a positive impact she's had on my life and that I admire her to the fullest extent. Thanks :)
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reader, alanna34  +, writes (31 March 2017):
yeah i have a teacher thats like a mother to me. She gives me advice and all but the other students are saying im obsessed which im not. Shes just like a mother figure. I went to my guidance counseller and she said i have to distance myself from her. She has to as well, but the words she said to the counseller was take care of her for me.
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reader, Ediegoose  +, writes (24 February 2011):
I was wondering... Did you tell her? :)
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reader, lori nguyen +, writes (22 December 2010):
i have the same thing.i like my english teacher as a mom and i am in 8th grade.i wrote her a letter that i love her like a mom and she didnt accept it.the next day, she gave it back to me and she said this is inappropriate for school.i felt so bad.i didnt know why she didnt accept me for loving her.she has a baby girl and married.i felt like she rejected me.
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reader, Neferterie +, writes (1 November 2010):
 Hi, I know this is really late compared to everyone else's responce but I thought I'd still tell you my 2 cents...I was in the same boat as you. An English teacher of mine was about the best friend I had, almost exactly 15 years my senior, but she understood me super well. I found myself in her classroom all the time, she would listen to me talk and would give her advice. Slowly it became a really close friendship, we both used each other as a therapist. After a while I realised that I loved her very much, more than a friend, but nothing weird. And then I thought about it and I realised that I loved her alot like how I love my mum. And I told her so. She told me that she thought of me as another daughter (she has 2 of her own kids both of whom call me their older sister). I know that I am much happier now that I've told her exactly how I feel. There is nothing weird about you telling her you think about her as a second mum. (you should call her that, "second mum" or mom... w/e you say)and if you're in her classroom all the time then you might be surprised. She may think of you as somewhat of a daughter or niece. Hope that helps at all. If you ever need to talk just let me know! (I'm not on here alot so it might take a while but I should see it at some point.) :D
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (9 May 2010):
 That would be a simply wonderful thing for you to do. Teachers want to know that they've made a difference. Hearing it from a student is the best reward they can hope for. As others have said, I wouldn't quite phrase it as the title suggests. But do let her know she's made a difference in your life!
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reader, UnknownGirl +, writes (9 May 2010):
UnknownGirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answers guys, I appreciate them all :)
SirenaBlusera: My relationship with my mom is great. We love each other very much and I'm not one of those girls who hates, or even complains about her mom. It's just that when Im in school and my mom is working for days at a time, which she often does, I just like to think that if I had any problems that I wasn't able to tell my mom, I could tell her and that she'd care as equally as my mom would.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2010): yes, i'd tell her that you admire her and thank her greatly. But i wouldn';t use the exact words 'like a mother'
the way you phrased it in the question was beautiful though
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (8 May 2010):
 I don't know your Spanish teacher but I can tell you that teachers love to feel appreciated.
She might be a bit concerned about your relationship you have with your mom. How is it, if I may ask? Even if your relationship with your "real" mom is good, she might think you're implying that she's a surrogate mom or that there is a rift in your relationship with your mom.
I don't think it would creep her out and I definitely think you should tell her how you feel. It would mean a lot to her to know about the positive impact she's had on your life. It's not creepy to have a very positive rapport with a teacher. I've never had a student tell me that but I have had them say really nice things to me and it make me cry with happiness because I felt wanted and important. You could always just tell her "You're one of the most important adults in my life and you have impacted my life positively in so many ways."
Better yet you should tell her in Spanish!! :-)
No te preocupes, apuesto que ella estará muy feliz.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (8 May 2010):
 I think you can tell her that she has been a great support to you and that you have valued her input in your life. You don't need to tell her she has been a mother to you or go that far as she may not understand what you are trying to say. Buy her a bunch of flowers with a card saying 'thanks for being a great teacher and mentor' and she will appreciate it.
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