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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. We've been on and off for different reasons. I'm the one who called it off most of the time... Anywho, he changed so much this year (2009) that he's like a different person. He says I have changed as well. He loves me very much and I do as well. I really do. Anytime he takes a while to respond through text message, I KNOW he's playing his video games but I start thinking he's talking to another girl like this one time it happened before. It ended up ending our relationship for a while, leading us to both change. We are back together and truly happy, he tells me he's playing video games, most of the time without me having to ask. However, it makes me wonder, can I really say I love him if I have these doubts and insecurties at times?
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reader, MRS.SCOOTA +, writes (28 July 2009):
Okay physically (ur mind) u can...but emotionally(ur heart ) u cnt
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): Yes you can. You just have trust issues. I've been married for about a year and I still have them sometimes. It's not because there's something wrong with who you are with. We need to face that it's because there are insecurities within us. Did you have bad relationships in the past? If you did, it might be like you are expecting some bad things to happen with this one as well, even if he is a truly awesome guy. Don't accuse him of anything, but just talk to him about your insecurities. More often than not he will ask, "Why do you think I would do that?" etc. and you can talk, but avoid using "You" terms/sentences. Say stuff like "I" feel this way, because "I" feel such and such...etc. Or has he had a bad past? My husband used to be a player, and sometimes I get worried that he is going to be that way again, even though I wasn't in his life during that phase of his.
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