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writes: hi, i broke up with my boyfriend and planning to see someone else. but i can't forget my ex. our's was a mutual and a friendly break up. no hard feelings.i feel this new person is nice and don't want to hurt him. can i love some one and date someone else. i feel guilty?
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reader, Virginiaac +, writes (21 December 2005):
You say you are planning to date someone else. Why not date him and find out if he makes you forget the ex?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2005): I think you need to step carefully. The last thing you should be doing is considering this new guy especially when you have acknowledged that you have strong feelings for your ex. You need to get in contact with your ex, be honest and tell him how you feel. If he is not interested then it's time to move on, knowing that you made an effort to make things work.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (21 December 2005):
 Dearie, it would have been useful to state how long you broke up from your ex. you obviously still seem to have alot of issues you still need to deal with. Have u had time to reflect on your previously relationship to ask yourself what went wrong so that u dont make the same mistakes? If u venture into this without sorting all this out it isnt only this guy u might hurt u just might hurt yourself too.
You say u still have feelings for your ex if he has moved on with his life then u just have to go on with yours. If he hasnt moved on and u guys are still close then maybe its best to talk to him. Tell him how u feel and ask if there can still be anything between you two.
Once you have sorted out the above, then u can now decide what u want to do. if your ex is definetly a closed chapter then my own advise is to tell this new guy that u like him very much but u would like to take things easy with him for now.You guys can go out on simple dates be close and see where it leads.
I wish you the best and have a happy holiday.
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reader, Mr.Ed +, writes (21 December 2005):
 Dating is such a loose term these days. If you only want to date this guy then why would he get hurt. Explain to him your exact intentions with him and there should be no hurt feelings. Guys like to be very direct about if there is a possibility of going somewhere with you. So if you say I'm in love with someone else whom I DON'T SEE but, I want to date you 2 times a week to see if I MIGHT BE ABLE to fall in love again or more; then we get the point and if we accept those terms then we are the ones with the problem. As for you loving this other guy; hmmm.... well let's just let time heal that one because it's too soon to say anything about him. Good luck. Ed
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