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writes:Hello I have a question about sex. Can men get turned on if they are with someone they are not attracted to? When I kiss my boyfriend , he has his eyes closed and also and when I pleasure him orally he will sometimes close his eyes or look past my head or his eyes will shift focus to something next to me - does this mean he is thinking of someone else?Also, he seems to be more aroused in the dark. When we do things with lights on he is not. Any explanations? thanks :-) Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 June 2009):
It's normal to close your eyes when you kiss / experience pleasure.
I'd be really freaked out if I found my guy was kissing me with his eyes open. That would be creepy.
When you close off your vision by closing your eyes, your hearing, taste and sense of touch get heightened. Excellent for sex and chocolate.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, enyalius88  +, writes (7 June 2009):
although it is possible for men to be turned on to women they arent necessarily attracted to this is probably not the case. the fact that he is turned on when its darker or that he looks past you and doesnt make eye contact during such a personal act could mean that hes not confident or is a bit insecure, it defnitely doesnt mean he is not attracted to you. you should speak to him about it, let him know how you feel about it. it might just be his way of expressing his pleasure and his response to sexual stimulation. im no expert though.. hope my answer helps
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reader, sammi star +, writes (7 June 2009):
 Going by what a male friend told me, yes men can get aroused by women they don't even find attractive but I don't think that's what's happening here. Nearly everyone closes their eyes when they kiss and just because he closes his eyes or looks past you when you do other stuff doesn't mean he's thinking of someone else. He might like sex in the dark because he's insecure or it could just be because your other senses come alive when you can't see much? If he didn't find you attractive he wouldn't stick around would he? Why not try to pluck up the courage and ask him why he always closes his eyes and likes the lights out. Good luck x
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