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writes:My best friend and I hang out together alot. She's always over at my house at the weekends, she stays over on Friday and Saturday nights. Last Saturday, she was over as usual. We were watching a film on the settee. At the end of the film, we were talking when the conversation moved to sex (not with each other just in general). All of a sudden she said that neither of us is getting any and maybe we should upgrade our friendship to sex buddies. I started laughing and thought it was a joke and I got up to go to the loo. To get to my bathroom I have to walk through my bedroom (it's a weird set-up) and when I came out the the bathroom she was sat on my bed in an extremely provocative position naked! She said it would be fun. I admit that I got really excited and I never realised she was so sexy! In a moment of bad judgment I thought why the hell not and dived right in. We had sex all night and all day Sunday. She took the morning after pill and is now starting to take the pill so we can have regular sex. She's really sexy and we had great sex and she's coming over later for more but I'm wondering if it could be a bad idea. Can casual sex between friends work or is our friendship heading for disaster?
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reader, InterCntlCHmp  +, writes (26 March 2009):
Don't label it at all bro!!!
You have a great relationship built on friendship & trust and now it has moved on to another level that you are both enjoying. Don't stress just let things progress as they already have. Don't label it it's stupid just keep doing what you are doing and if you meet someone else be upfront and honest to her about it. If not who knows maybe you've met the mother of your children. enjoy.
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reader, thereIgothinking  +, writes (26 March 2009):
The deed is done, and you can't go back. I'd ask her point blank "Are you my girlfriend now?". Nothing's better than falling in love with your best friend. But if just one of you feels it alot more than the other, love sucks. If she or you don't want a monogamous relationship, then every effort should be made to date others. Friends with Benefits doesn't work if you are exclusive, and it takes hardening of the heart to not be jealous, which few people can do. Other romances help.I'd enjoy it while it lasts, because your friendship and all the niceties and respect that go with friendship will be gone soon, so get ready to hear things from her that you never thought you'd hear. There will be many surprises, some good and some bad. If it doesn't work, expect that she may not want to be your friend anymore. Women typically don't like to have reminders of past failed relationships around. You're not in the 'friend zone' anymore!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (26 March 2009):
It can work as long as you stay and will only ever be JUST friends.
If either of you starts getting feelings you have to call it off immediately.
But as long as it's not all the time, and as long as you are mates first and the sex is just an occasional added extra then it'll be fine.
Good Luck!! xx
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