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writes:I was seeing a bloke for around a month and he finished with me because he had depression and said he really likes me and wants to protect me from him as he would let me down...anyway since then i have sent some messages asking how he is and the last one he replied to said not been good but i will live. We work together so yesterday he did come in and talk to me about work..first time in over a week.I really dont know what to do i really miss this guy and want to be here for him but cant bring myself to keep asking how he is because of pride as he never asks me...i have tried to forget him but i just cant, can anyone recommend how i can get through to him, most people just say leave him be he is not depressed, he lied to you, but i think he is just cause he does not show it at work does not mean he is not..really miss him even thought of telling him that but fear rejection when someone dumps you its hard to tell them how you feel as dont want to appear like bunny boiler...i have given him over a week does he need longer, im scared he will just forget me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, i appreciate the advice, will have to try and get on with things...wish i could help but if he dont want it cant force it, just wish he had told me it was me and not that he really liked me and wanted to protect me, it gives false hope, hey thanks loads.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (26 June 2008):
 Hi,
I think you just have to let him be. He does not see you as someone who can help him deal with his depression and that is a shame. You obviously have a big heart as many people would not offer the support you are prepared to give after such a short relationship. He probably sees his job as the one stable in his life and puts all his efforts into maintaining a positive face. But I dont think you are helping by mentioning to colleagues that he suffers from depression. This could be a reason why he is not prepared to open up to you, nobody wants their dirty laundry aired in public. So its best to keep mum about his depression especially to work mates.
I'm afraid you are just going to have to leave him be and move on with your life. sorry.
good luck.
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