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Can actually I find a nice honest guy out there who doesn't play games?

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Question - (9 February 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 9 February 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Id like to ask those males out there or the women who its happened too! Is there some hope of finding a nice honest loving man. Who would give u the earth? Who wanna settle down and have a family.marriage? Cos i just seem to think that there isnt! I had a very controlling mentally abused relationship that ended 6 months ago! I had interest in this time but men just seem to play games and have fun. Is there really any nice honest men out there who would love to be with me as much as i want to be with them? And not ones who play around and are womanisers!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009):

Perhaps it is something about you that is attracting game players....If you just got out of an abusive relationship, have you had any therapy to help you get over it and get your self esteem back? Game playing guys love vulnerable low self esteem women, you are an easy mark to them.

Learn how to deflect a real gamey kind of guy and don't go out with him. People always tell us who they are if we will only listen.

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (9 February 2009):

Fatherly Advice agony auntI never really felt over-hunted. Of course that war 2 decades ago and I am securely taken now. I actually felt that I was looked over in favor of bad boys most often. The trouble with nice guys is that we are boring. Lazy guy gave you some very good advice there. The only thing I have to add is that you may have to look for some one who doesn't make your heart race so much.

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A male reader, LazyGuy Netherlands +, writes (9 February 2009):

LazyGuy agony auntI went fishing last week. Couldn't catch any tuna. I spend AGES throwing lures, waiting with rod in hand by the river Maas. No tuna. It is to despair.

Silly? Expecting to find tuna in a river? Perhaps, but not as silly as some women who hang out in the wrong places at the wrong times being attracted and dating the wrong guys that they don't meet any so called nice guys.

There are nice guys out there, although they are a severely over-hunted species, but you won't find them if you look in the wrong spots. Try to find what you call a nice guy, even if he is taken and observe his behavior. Where does he hang out? What occupies his days? Is it the same things as the womanizers you are meeting right now?

If you want to marry a baker, you don't find him dancing the night away. Hint: Bakers work in the nights.

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